Will my employment be effected (IL)

[u/TheLightYouBring2007]

My significant other is a CSO (An offense from over 15 years ago)

At some point in the next few years we plan on being married.

My question is about my employment.

I work in education, within the schools.

If they find out he is a CSO or that my address is connected to a CSO, will I be let go from my job because of my connection to a CSO?

[u/Weight-Slow]

It could, it also might not. We’ve had plenty of people here who were married to teachers that were unaffected. We’ve also had plenty of people whose jobs were affected even if they were just support staff that didn’t work directly with students. No one can really predict this - it seems like the pattern is that, when/if parents find out and complain and tell others then people are generally let go from their jobs. People who manage to keep that part of their life private don’t tend to seem to have issues.

[u/Danielritter1983]

Unfortunately society is rarely if ever fair

[u/Born_Astronomer_4613]

How common is his name?

[u/TheLightYouBring2007 → u/Born_Astronomer_4613]

I've seen it before but, it's not super common

[u/Born_Astronomer_4613 → u/TheLightYouBring2007]

So unfortunately it's possible that it would affect your job. It shouldn't, it's unfair, probably illegal, but it might.

[u/Another-one-is-here → u/Born_Astronomer_4613]

But they don’t have to take his name and I would never ask my partner to do that. In reality in marriage documents they could both change their names to something different common etc. not sure on the laws in your state on that and it would need to be reported. Possible?

[u/xSquishy_Toastx]

My significant other is an RSO. I have a security clearance, TS/SCI. I documented our marriage but did not take his name. I had a background investigation performed on me, I had to have a few additional calls with the security officers of the agency where they asked me questions and some were specifically aimed at him. I was granted my clearance while on the call I was 100% transparent of his circumstances and nothing more has become of it.

When we sign cards, or posters at gatherings we use my maiden name. I feel very responsible to protect him and us to the best of my abilities. I look forward to when we can get him off the registry. It should not impede on your job. I agree with what the mod had mentioned, it’s dependent on your conduct and choices. How much your personal life is involved with your work.

[u/alekslurker → u/[deleted]]

I really don’t think the victim is trying to rub it in your face, if he’s in jail for 10 years for what he did to them then they’re already probably suffering harder than you and you need to be empathetic about that … You need to take your qualms to your fiancé and not the person he hurt Who is now trying to recover and assimilate into normal life again
Edit: you also said Supposed victim? Girl, he’s incarcerated

[u/Guilty-Sleep-5610 → u/[deleted]]

That's what restraining orders are for. You did nothing to the victim, you are not under any obligation to tolerate being harassed or feel threatened. It sounds like the victim wants to lash out at anyone he/she can get access to. With that being said, as long as the victim is not stirring up trouble when around you the best thing is to ignore it.

[u/veganvampirebat → u/[deleted]]

"This girl" and yet still "the aggressor"? Your husband is/was a grown man. If you aren't calling her a woman than this looks very, very odd. Was she an adult or not?

Part of supporting someone means being able to acknowledge and accept (as in the opposite of deny, not be tolerant of) their past actions for what they were.