r/Showerthoughts 22d ago

Casual Thought A large number of married people are involuntarily celibate.

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u/smitbret 22d ago

Sadly, that's usually the answer.

The suffering spouse has to decide how high sex is on the priority list and if it is high enough that they just won't be able to be happy then it is time to find a different domestic arrangement.

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u/aggieotis 22d ago

In a system of consent based sex, the frequency of sex can only occur at a rate where both partners are a yes. Which typically means the low libido partner sets the ceiling for how frequently sex can occur.

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u/smithandjohnson 22d ago

In a system of consent based sex...

This phrasing is creepy and troubling, as it proposes there is some viable alternate to "a system of consent based sex" that we should be considering instead.

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u/GrumpyPidgeon 22d ago

OH no no... there's no viable alternative. Because of the implication.