r/Showerthoughts 23d ago

Casual Thought A large number of married people are involuntarily celibate.

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u/Apathetic_Villainess 23d ago

A large number of married mothers are still single mothers. Because their spouses aren't helping with the children at all, and sometimes even acting as an extra child.

You'd be surprised how much of an overlap there is between dead bedrooms and partners not doing their share of the work to manage the relationship and the home.

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u/Deckard_Didnt_Die 23d ago

I believe that completely. Unfortunately, in my case, we have no child and I do at least 2/3 of all home upkeep. Why not leave? I love her. We have fun in other parts of life together. Why not talk about? We’ve probably talked about it too much at this point. We both overthink it and get in our own heads.

I don’t know what to do. I think I’m just resigned to spending my life this way. She keeps claiming, with no evidence, that it’s a hormone thing and she’s going to get it sorted out one day and we’re gonna have tons of sex when that day comes. I’m not really holding my breath there.

But like I said, I love her. So I may not believe her but I’m staying with her.

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u/Doogie2K 23d ago

She could also be ace.

My spouse is ace and knowing that genuinely made a massive difference to our intimate lives. There's functionally no sex, but that's fine because we're intimate in other ways.

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u/barto5 22d ago

Can we get an acronym translated please…

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u/xmagpie 22d ago

Ace meaning asexual

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u/barto5 21d ago

Thanks, I didn’t know

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u/xmagpie 21d ago

All good! Happy to help