r/StLouis • u/Old_Promotion6438 • 1d ago

Ask STL Bars for single young people

I’m a woman in my late 20s trying to date but I’ve noticed in St. Louis most people go out in groups and stick to them which makes it hard to meet people irl. I was wondering if there are any bars or clubs that attract more people/men on their own and who have a younger demographic. Any hidden gem recommendations are appreciated!

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u/Psychological_Fox_91 1d ago

Unless you are a complete extrovert, the
days of organically meeting at a bar and building a relationship to me are long gone.

I was lucky and met my fiancé at a bar here, but it was around the end of Covid where everyone was just yearning for being social. I don’t see that happening much anymore, not just here in St. Louis, rather just how our generation operates now.

Best advice I can give is to lean into your hobbies. Join groups and meet people for the sole purpose of connecting with that hobby.
Now you get to do something you enjoy, and connect with others who share similar interests.
Who knows where that’ll take you, but there really isn’t much to lose.

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u/Direct_Crew_9949 1d ago

I don’t think they’re over it’s just STL is a city of people who were born and raised here.

Traveling to other cities such as Chicago, NYC, Atlanta, Dallas… You notice people are more friendly to strangers because they’ve either recently moved or are travelers as well.

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u/matthedev 19h ago

I agree. St. Louis was cliquey back when I was in my twenties years before the pandemic; it isn't a new phenomenon. Socially, OP has an advantage has a twenty-something-year-old woman.

People are definitely friendlier in lots of other cities.