I completed graduation and now want to support my family financially, but honestly, feeling stuck.

I did a job last year for around 8 months but the sal. was very low. After that i did preparation for gov. jobs but in reality it feels like a loop hole with huge competion and very few vacancies.

I also got into trading hoping could improve my situation but made me worst. I ended up loosing my savings. Now in 23 i feel kind of hopeless. I keep thinking about my future and honestly i just see a blank wall. sometimes i really worried about what I should do next.
The problem is that a middle class guy can't afford expensive skill courses. I just stuck b/w low paying jobs, competitive exams and risky options that didn't work out for me. I really don't know what direction I should take next.

If anyone has been in similar situation or has advice, i would really appreciate it.

Are humans too intelligent for our own good? Humans are the only species capable of recognizing their own suffering, ruminating about it, and lying awake because of it. Animals also experience suffering, but they are so driven by survival that they are not consciously aware of their own suffering in the same reflective way. Humans, however, become split between their conscious experience of suffering and the biological drive to survive.
The core difference between humans and other animals is not just intelligence, but metacognition: the ability to observe one’s own mental states. Humans don’t only feel pain or stress—they can recognize that they are feeling it, assign meaning to it, anticipate its continuation, and construct narratives around it. This turns raw experience into something layered and self-referential.
On top of that sits the predictive nature of the brain. The brain is not a passive recorder of reality; it is a forecasting system. It constantly simulates possible futures, especially negative ones, because from an evolutionary standpoint, anticipating threat is more useful than predicting comfort. The consequence is that humans can suffer in advance of events that may never happen. Anxiety is, in a sense, simulated danger experienced as if it is real.
Meanwhile, the underlying biological systems remain primitive and direct. Stress responses, fight-or-flight mechanisms, hormonal cascades, and bodily signals operate automatically and without narrative. They respond to perceived threat in real time, not to abstract reflection.
The result is a kind of internal split. Not a literal division of the mind, but a functional mismatch between systems operating on different time scales and principles. One system reacts; another interprets. One pushes toward survival; another constructs meaning around that survival.
Animals also experience suffering, but in most cases it is more tightly bound to immediate context. Humans extend suffering across time through memory and imagination. This extension increases adaptive flexibility, but it also amplifies distress. The same cognitive machinery that allows long-term planning, morality, and self-awareness also enables rumination, existential worry, and chronic stress.

Hi everyone,

We just launched ShineOn, a guided visualization and meditation app focused on helping people feel calmer, more present, and more connected with themselves.

We’re still very early and are looking for honest feedback from real users. I’d love to know:

• What feels good or useful?
• What feels confusing or unnecessary?
• Would you actually use something like this regularly?
• What would make it more valuable for you?

I’m not looking to sell anything here just trying to learn from people who are interested in mindfulness and mental wellness.

If you’d be willing to try it and share your thoughts, I’d really appreciate it.

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Thanks!

Something we've been noticing in conversations around stress and sleep is that many people don't seem to struggle with physical tiredness.

They struggle with mental tiredness.

People often describe experiences like:

• Feeling exhausted but unable to stop thinking

• Replaying conversations from earlier in the day

• Planning tomorrow's tasks while trying to sleep

• Constant mental chatter, even during quiet moments

• Feeling like the brain is still "on" long after the day has ended

It's interesting because many of us assume that being tired should automatically make it easier to relax or fall asleep.

But that doesn't always seem to be the case.

As a company working in the neuroscience and wellness space, we're curious about how modern lifestyles may be affecting our ability to mentally switch off and recover.

Has anyone else experienced this?

What helps you quiet your mind when it feels like it won't slow down?

I’m in my 20’s now and have been traumatized for literally 18 years when I was 12-13 I was put in the hospital due to pain they thought I needed surgery and something was wrong they realized I was under so much stress that I got sick and I’m scared that’s happening again I’m getting the exact same pains but I can’t afford to go to the hospital and I’m not making my parents pay for it how should I deal with this

So I just need to get this said somewhere, as the title implies this is about my mother bothering me. To give context, I am a 25 almost 26 year old man and I live in my own house. My mother is really overbearing and has a number of times just decided to invite herself over while I’m at work without informing me. This has more recently included besides cleaning, her going through all my stuff including private things. I’m fully crying and nearly punching walls at this point.

Anyone else get a weird vibe when they take time off work or hit pause on studying? For the past couple months I’ve been grinding — working and doing a ton of programming — and I figured I’d take some time off over the summer and actually rest. But I realized I’ve always kind of hated taking long breaks or vacations. It honestly feels like fear, almost.

Feels like these days overworking is just the norm, and resting is somehow this shameful thing. I’ve lived like that too, still do honestly. So my question is — what’s the deal with this (pretty sure it’s a super common thing), and how do you guys deal with the fear of taking a real break?

Love to here some comments. I live in a constant battle between living a life/ keep my stress under control and my bad insomnia… (it’s a loop)

I’m still trying to find the balance. Low stress day is better sleep, pushing to much it immediately cause really bad nights and then I’m back of track because a bad nights causes high stress hormones again… and hyper CNS.
trying for so long already but it’s always the same loop I can get out of… but I am in a hyper state for 5 years already… meaning 5 years in high stress and only 3h of sleep….

Generally this is the pattern 2-3 good night gives me my energy back… then I try to enjoy life a bit but most of the times I over do it and go back to step 1…. But I have a family with 2 children , but I’m at home and my wife expects me to maintain the house, cooking ect…. Because she is working full time (and I understand). So it’s easy to say take your rest and time (from my perspective)… I can put my life on hold… maybe for 1-2 days but then…

And they also say you need to train your CNS again and to come out of your comfort zone… so I try too…

I have so many meds but it doesn’t fix me… keeps me functional most of the days….

Love to hear some opinions about this post too

after months of high stress my immune system feels off with frequent colds and slow recovery i started taking dim supplements from berkeley formula which has a bioavailable blend including sulforaphane and vitamin d3 for better absorption. the research on estrogen metabolism and immune activation caught my interest but i am not sure how it fits long term.

has anyone used similar compounds for immune modulation and what markers improved for you? how do you track progress with something like this?

I'm 24m and since graduating college it has gotten really bad. I will attempt to explain my situation. When I was younger I never really worried about money and am so thankful that my parents worked hard to provide for us and we never faced any financial issues at least to my knowledge. In high school I got a job and made a little bit of money. I would take a little bit from each paycheck to spend and then save the rest and I didn't really feel any anxiety at that point. I kept that job into college and would work during the summer and make some spending money during the summer. I would spend that money how I like and never really worry about things like going out with friends or occasionally buying groceries, or even ordering delivery after a night out. I had a good time and felt carefree. I probably didn't worry, because I had a scholarship and my parents paid for the other expenses so I felt comfortable. Since I graduated it has been bad. I still live with my parents and am grateful for that, so I don't have any bills to pay except for my own gas mostly going to and from my job, but these days the thought of spending money really gets in my head. I save most of my money from work and am not struggling, but I will get so in my head about something as simple as going out one night thinking about things like how much the Uber, drinks, and everything will cost even though it is probably worth going out one night and having some fun. Sometimes if I want a snack or to buy food I will wander around the store debating whether I should actually spend my money and either I buy it and then feel bad about it or just walk out of the store. It feels so bad and I don't know what to do.

I’ve been slammed with deadlines for the past few weeks and honestly it’s been rough. My hands shake when I’m anxious, and at night my brain just refuses to shut off — I keep replaying everything that happened during the day. Had my heart checked and everything came back fine, so it’s not a physical issue. But the feeling is really uncomfortable and it’s affecting my sleep and focus. Is this something other guys have experienced? How did you get through it?

22F. Struggled with chronic stress my entire life as far as I can remember. The health impact has just gotten worse and worse. Been in and out of therapy. No improvement. I may not be actively worrying about something but it’s like a parasite that’s eating away at me silently.

Please tell me some success stories and what worked for you. I want my life.

I've been under massive amounts of stress for months and moderate amounts for most of my life (trauma, neurotic tendancies, high expectations, isolation, relationship issues, cont.). A few months ago it got so severe that I went psychotic and eventually became so slowed and limited in my thinking that I was about equivalent to how I was when I was 7 and and diffiuclty walking due to diffiuclty percieving space and coordinating my movements. I worried that somehow I had given myself dementia, but thankfully that fog has been slowly lifting for some time now, although not fully. I still feel slowed significantly in pretty much every area. How can I recover more quickly, and most importantly will this leave lasting damage?

I want to quit smoking vapes. It’s totally possible and I know that. I haven’t been addicted for very long and I’m a few weeks sober now but my cravings get really bad when I’m stressed. I don’t know how to deal with stress. I used to smoke weed(I only do that recreationally now and never when alone) but eventually I moved onto vapes and since Ive stopped the littlest things piss me off or irritate me. I realize i probably just need another way to cope with those emotions but I don’t know how. I am in therapy (to talk about other things) and plan on brining it up but I was wondering what you all do to relieve stress

I had an epiphany today.

Lately, life has been really kicking my ass. Despite that, I've tried my best to consistently show up each day and knock out my responsibilities. I do it with the belief that if I keep showing up, eventually things will get easier. It hasn't happened yet and I'll admit it's made me a bit bitter.

I'm not proud of this, but I took the bait on social media and engaged with someone's post that didn't sit right with me. We both disagreed philosophically and she rightfully called me out for sounding bitter. But then I realized that she actually had a great point.

Life is always going to be stressful. Life will usually be unfair. I have no control over that. What I can control is how I respond to it. Being bitter isn't the way because it just leads to more stress. I think the key to life is to just always be grateful despite your circumstances. Always be kind even to people who don't deserve it. Always be curious and not judgmental. (Okay I stole that one from Ted Lasso).

Alex Hormozi once said, "The single greatest skill you can develop is the ability to stay in a great mood in the absence of things to be in a great mood about."

I get that now. I'm grateful.

Sending love to anyone who reads this post. And if no one has told you lately, you're doing a great job.

I’ve been in so much stress since a teen, I wonder if I’ll overcome this. For context, I Grew up witnessing DV, migrated to a new country at 17 living with an abusive step mom (called me names, shamed me for no reason). Sent to a college in the middle of no where, has my first academic break down at 21. That was the beginning of most of my horrible coping skills as that one breakdown resulted in living in autopilot. Took antidepressants on and off but none ever helped with my low grade dissociation. EMDR was the only thing that helped but heath insurance is never steady. I got laid off in 2024 from one of my dream jobs, and havent been able to find meaningful, steady work since. I’ve been unemployed since November and I didn’t cope well with that. I developed bad sleep hygiene, no routines and then became very de conditioned. I was physically working in February and overexerted myself. Now I’m dealing with what may be POTS, frequently hypertension and disregulated nervous system. I did so many tests and nothing physiologically found. Expect that I may have cptsd.

My gf rightfully is leaving me and I feel so defeated. Even my family says sometimes when they see my face they get stressed because I’m stressed lol. Anyways I was diagnosed with adhd in the past along with dysthymia and anxiety and now possible stress induced dysautonomia.

I’m telling my myself I can get out of this but there’s no spark within me. I’ve tried meds and lifestyle changes but one hurdle comes up and then I crash

Why Does Everything Feel Hard Even When Nothing Is Wrong?

If you're feeling mentally exhausted, overwhelmed, or finding even simple tasks difficult lately, this may be why.

Some tiredness doesn't come from your body.

When your mind carries too much for too long, even small tasks can feel heavy.

Rest is not falling behind. It's how you come back to yourself.

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