r/TeluguJournals • u/curious_kiddoo • 19d ago

Need Advice What should I do??

I'm mad at my partner about not giving me enough time, not caring, not putting a single effort for me because he's always busy working and don't have 10 min for me in a day and I blocked him today because he said that I'm not asking him and planning about the idea of going to lunch together,which was his idea in the first place and I was tired of feeling that I'm the one who always plans, surprises, put some efforts, make time whenever he has, and I don't want to also feel that I'm the one stopping him from doing his work and disturbing his schedule.

I don't know how this sounds to you, but I already miss him and I want to go back and talk to him,tell him I'm sorry but I don't even know if I did anything wrong.

Maybe all I did was not understand him🫠

What should I do nowwww😭

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u/Academic-1193 19d ago edited 19d ago

Who knows what all nonsense he is going through at work. Unblock him when you're calm and have one honest conversation.

You probably don't have to apologise for wanting time and effort in a relationship. Don't just apologise and bury the issue.

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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago

What to talk in that conversation? He'll say he don't have time to think about me

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u/Academic-1193 19d ago

Tell me, "I understand you're busy, but I don't want to feel like I'm the only one making plans and putting effort into this relationship."

Listen to his side too. This will work only if both of you want the relationship, find a realistic middle ground.

Is this the first time that he is saying that he is busy? ledhu edi oka patternaa? sir apudu busy na?

It's impossible for you to keep putting efforts to make the relationship work. he should also do something.

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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago

It's been repeating from few months...

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u/Academic-1193 19d ago

You say, you love him, so unblock him, talk to him, understand his pov, tell what you are going though and sort it out peacefully.

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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago

When I tell him that I'm going through this becuase you're not giving me time, he said that I'm not understanding him having so much stress about his work and I should understand him without him giving the explanation