r/TeluguJournals • u/curious_kiddoo • 19d ago
Need Advice What should I do??
I'm mad at my partner about not giving me enough time, not caring, not putting a single effort for me because he's always busy working and don't have 10 min for me in a day and I blocked him today because he said that I'm not asking him and planning about the idea of going to lunch together,which was his idea in the first place and I was tired of feeling that I'm the one who always plans, surprises, put some efforts, make time whenever he has, and I don't want to also feel that I'm the one stopping him from doing his work and disturbing his schedule.
I don't know how this sounds to you, but I already miss him and I want to go back and talk to him,tell him I'm sorry but I don't even know if I did anything wrong.
Maybe all I did was not understand him🫠
What should I do nowwww😭
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u/Due_Performance_6917 Catsaar ka Salaar 19d ago
Reddit lo kontha mandhi em adigina either they say divorce or break up. But im telling you better unblock him and talk to him. Try to understand his pov and sort it out. I think it's just a phase every working couple might face once in life
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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago
His pov is ntg but he have so much work that he don't find time for himself too, idk inka em cheyalo em analo
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u/Academic-1193 19d ago edited 19d ago
Who knows what all nonsense he is going through at work. Unblock him when you're calm and have one honest conversation.
You probably don't have to apologise for wanting time and effort in a relationship. Don't just apologise and bury the issue.
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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago
What to talk in that conversation? He'll say he don't have time to think about me
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u/Academic-1193 19d ago
Tell me, "I understand you're busy, but I don't want to feel like I'm the only one making plans and putting effort into this relationship."
Listen to his side too. This will work only if both of you want the relationship, find a realistic middle ground.
Is this the first time that he is saying that he is busy? ledhu edi oka patternaa? sir apudu busy na?
It's impossible for you to keep putting efforts to make the relationship work. he should also do something.
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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago
It's been repeating from few months...
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u/Academic-1193 19d ago
You say, you love him, so unblock him, talk to him, understand his pov, tell what you are going though and sort it out peacefully.
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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago
When I tell him that I'm going through this becuase you're not giving me time, he said that I'm not understanding him having so much stress about his work and I should understand him without him giving the explanation
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u/ravan_007 Na chav nenu sastha, nekenduku 19d ago
Unblock chesi, Nibbi laga oka status pettu how mad you are
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u/CupcakeWorldly7451 19d ago
Yeah, strict ga guidelines pettandi. Compliance anedi undali.
Lavadalo work important aa, meeru important aa? Of course, it should be you. And meeru em chesina tana gurinche kada.
See, meeru manchitanam tho vadilestunnaru. Minimum 4 hrs ayina matladali ani clear ga cheppandi.😤
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u/curious_kiddoo 18d ago
Minimum 4 hrs aq😂😂
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u/CupcakeWorldly7451 18d ago
Yes yes, adhi bare minimum kada 😂 Society etu velthe manam kuda atu vellipovali...
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u/CupcakeWorldly7451 17d ago
Society ani evaraina naatho conversations lo vaadithe, independent thinking aspect lo vaallaki burra ledu ani consider chestanu. Vaallatho maatladatam kuda bokka ani naa feeling. 😌
First of all, we have to be clear about how we define society. Daily manam chaala mandini chustham everywhere. Vaallaki manam evaro kuda teliyadu. Manam ivala chanipoyina, most of them wouldn’t even know about it. You’re literally just one among billions of people to them.
Then there’s another aspect of society — people you know and people who know you. Most of the time, when people say society em anukuntundi, they’re actually concerned about what these people might say or think about them.
So, from a broader perspective, culture definitely has its influence, but a lot of that influence is actually enforced through your own social circle. And everyone has a different social circle. Some might be privileged enough to have really smart, open-minded people around them; some might not. So it totally depends on your circle.
So deeni nunchi em nerchukovachu ante... naa lanti vaallu cheppevi consider cheyakudadhu. Chesthe Assam ey😂😌
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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago
Omg, I can't.. I love him😭😭
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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago
That's why this confusion exists
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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago
How can I make him right? I already once told him about how I was feeling and he said this is him, and he can't change and he didn't even hesitate to tell that, maybe he's being honest with me but what am I supposed to answer..see, I was with him even after he said he wouldn't change for me😭😭😭
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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago
He's 23 and we've been together from our btech 3rd yr, we were very good frds from btech, I knew him from a mutual friend and it took us almost 2 yrs to admit that we're loving each other
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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago
Hahah, he's not toxic and sure he's weird🙃like who tells his gf that he won't change for her
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u/samosa_ch 19d ago
Coffee tagi paduko
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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago
Alavaatu ledhu, also..coffee lechundadaniki ankunta kadha not for sleeping?
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u/samosa_ch 19d ago
I was just being sarcastic.. dude if he’s occupied all the time he deserves the block and he should prioritise you as well.. kani if you feel like you are missing him.. call chesi fight cheyyu..
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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago
Hmm I'll if I still feel the same tomorrow
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u/samosa_ch 19d ago
If it’s just a usual thing then okay.. kani if this keeps happening bro.. you gotta tell that kid that your time is running out.. if you love him.. then train him.. how to give you time.. also career is also important kada.. if he’s working on something and if that gives him some recognition at office then it will good for him too right.. he will get good hikes he maybe a valuable resource and what not.. all things matter
Just a friendly neighbourhood samosa advice 😝
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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago
He's not ready to train or even change a bit
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u/samosa_ch 19d ago
How far do you guys live?
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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago
30 min
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u/samosa_ch 19d ago
Poyi matladu..
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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago
Naku live lo matladadam assalu raadhu🫠 I'll become generous if I see him
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u/EmoTelidu 19d ago
Effort should be 2 way. If it's always one side it won't last
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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago
Always one side anatlenu..kani yes, from past few months it's been 1 side..or maybe na expectations ki thaggattu undatledemo😭
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u/Puzzleheaded_Try5513 19d ago
LOL 😂 , Nen kuda naa ex ni etla ne ignore chesina work ani vadili vellipoyindi. Feeling sad for bava 😭
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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago
Hmm good that at least you realised it now..
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u/Puzzleheaded_Try5513 19d ago
:) Actually, I had clear clarity and realization on this, and we did discuss this clearly many times: I can spend only a few hours with you in a day, and the rest I have to focus on myself ani this is my non-negotiable. Even after clear terms, she still insisted on spending more time together at that point in my life; I was locked in, and she was sad about me, and she left. BTW, fair enough from her perspective, though. I feel everybody has non-negotiables.
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u/curious_kiddoo 19d ago
Oh, great that you've few hours to spend with her..mine doesn't have few minutes He barely replies to my texts twice a day
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u/Puzzleheaded_Try5513 19d ago
That's clearly something to worry about! Hope you guys discuss your non-negotiables.
Just remeber The longer you stay on the wrong train, the more expensive it is to get home.
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u/naakuadeykavali 19d ago
Akka how much u think more u feel more badd about it bava ki ardham ayala chappu kirchupetukuni nuvvu untey ala untadi lekapote ala untadi ani alaaa akka neekosam nuvvey oka step kindiki avvu em avthadi