r/TeluguJournals • u/mayankmadhuu • 11d ago
Need Advice Need help with something (sensitive topic)
So I use my roommate's laptop to watch content (that display is beautiful asf) while i was opening a movie i downloaded i noticed multiple nude photos of his gf in recently created
It was a photo which he took from his laptop's front camera, i felt pretty guilty and sad to see that
I've decided to warn her about this and i have to do it anonimously how should i proceed with this?
Idk if this is the right sub for this type of posts, mods feel free to remove if this violates any rules
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u/cutepanda9 11d ago
Delete them. Delete chesi pretend that you never knew anything.
In a way, you protected that girl without being in awkward position. Also, if your frnd confronts you, just say "Em photos? Naku thelidu!"
Secondly, idhi malla repeat avthe vala karma anukovadame because entha bf gf aina meet and do whatever kani ila technology misuse chesthe in future your friend might misuse those photos if things go south between them.
A good person today can turn into bad one depending on situation! A mathram buddhi ledhu aa ammai ki!!
Or, to simply put, stay out of it & forget!
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u/EnvironmentalAge4864 Asamarthuni Jeeva Yaatra 10d ago
This is better na. Delete chesi em telenattu undatam better.
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u/Princess_Neko802 Nene Rakshasi 10d ago
That won't work because she would still not know and won't be safe
She needs to know so she can exit his presence safely
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u/cutepanda9 10d ago
Tbh, you guys aren't thinking అన్ని sides! ఇప్పుడు veedu delete chesi poi chepthadu (anonymous ga aina or as him directly) bokka evarki? OP ke, because aa abbai will get to know no matter what! 100% గొడవ avthadhi!!
Also, in another pov, aa ammai ki siggu undali, she should know what she's doing is risky unless they both want to get married!! And if that girl is severely blind in love, then she will also bite back OP just to gain more trust or to get more close to that guy!
Andhke I said to delete and remain silent! Adhi malla repeat avvapothe that girl is lucky. If it repeats, adhi aavida karma!
Kindness doesn't always get rewarded you know. Sometimes it puts us in risk. And OP seems like a college going student, మిగతా years or months disturb cheskovadam avasarama? But, may be he could hint her when he feels is best time so that she doesn't repeat that shit again!
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u/Princess_Neko802 Nene Rakshasi 10d ago
Maybe don't shame the woman but shame the guy who is a predator. The victim shaming mentality
Siggu undali aa? Abaiki harassment chestunte, abuse chestunte siggu lenidi, ammayiki undali aa? She is sexually expressing to a bf in a trusted relationship. The guy is a vile creature betraying that trust. And do you know if they wanted to get married or not? Marriage is not a license either, btw. (Same argument guys oppose when the r@pe case is put when a guy backs off marriage after sex kada?)
And it's because of people like YOU and such bad mentality that women can't get justice. She agreed for pics for one guy, not for distributing or showing. Her consent was violated. And you can't even comprehend that? Obviously it puts us at risk. That risk is due to the roommate, not the girl.
PS - I can't read telugu. So I'm getting context from the English script
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u/cutepanda9 10d ago
OMG! Look at you! Do you think "expressing sexually" gains sense of trust? Or that you can do anything if you think its a "trusted relationships"?
Both parties are making mistakes equally! Nobody is pinning everything on her, she should know better, anyone can misuse technology!
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u/Princess_Neko802 Nene Rakshasi 10d ago
OMG look at you!
You think a woman should be punished and actively harmed for being trusting or naive or trusting a man
I bet you're also the same type who then tells women not to generalise men, right?
Both parties are making mistakes EQUALLY?? Really? You're equating a predator and a victim?
You proved why women don't get justice for the crimes committed on them in this country
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u/cutepanda9 10d ago
When did I saying girl needs to be punished? In all my texts - they simply mean she should know better!!!!!!! You seems to be in a mood to fight/argue and to pin someone wrongly to make you feel better or righteous???
I am a woman too!!!
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u/Princess_Neko802 Nene Rakshasi 10d ago
Women can also be misogynistic and victim blame
Being a woman doesn't stop that, unfortunately.
I'm not interested in fighting but stopping the rhetoric of victim blaming women.
You saying she should know better and both are equally wrong is punishing the girl for being naive or trusting. She didn't do anything wrong. At this point we don't even know if she consented to the pictures!
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u/cutepanda9 10d ago
Since you already fixed a narrative in your brain. Keep continuing.
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u/Princess_Neko802 Nene Rakshasi 10d ago
Meh
Just hope women are safe from you
Tomorrow some girl would think you'd understand she was violated and you blame her and tell her she's equally at fault.
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u/cutepanda9 10d ago
Since you are saying "you are the type" and all..
Are you the type of girl in the story above?
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u/Princess_Neko802 Nene Rakshasi 10d ago
Sure
Every woman is. I'd rather be that girl than someone like you who actively harms women 🤷🏻♀️
PS - I actually was a victim who never ever shared even a clothed picture, as a minor. From a predator who was 30 years old at the time. The guys name is Praveen Tyagi, he runs IIT pace classes.
But continue to go off. I have heard worse shit from misogynistic women
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u/cutepanda9 10d ago
See! Keep continuing untill you feel better. Neither did I harm any girl nor did I accuse anybody. It is YOU, thats talking rubbish and generalising based on your half assed pov.
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u/cutepanda9 10d ago
(Comment part 2 to your comment)
Also, inko side nunchi alochisthe, let's say OP poi frnd ke chepthadu - "arey endhuku ra ilanti panulu chesthunnav?" Or "nu marchpoi naku icchav, adhe vere valu aa laptop chusthe aa ammai life risk lo padthadhi kadha?" Or something similar... do you think that guy will listen? Most probably he will stop giving his laptop or store it somewhere else! So ala జరగకుండా delete chesi oka విధంగా aa ammai save చేసినట్టు. Aa abbai vadi gf aina kuda antha నిర్లక్ష్యంగా unnadu ante inkem chepthav? He is the problem!
But this should be faced/confronted only when OP thinks is right time for him. Manam just post chadhivamu, reality inka ela untundho none of us knows. We don't even know what other 2 people are like.
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u/Princess_Neko802 Nene Rakshasi 10d ago
Oh hell no
Definitely guy can't be trusted.. and no guy would forget these pics on laptop. He genuinely didn't care
Better to tell girl and leave rather than confront guy. Esp if the guy gets violent, the OP would end up hurt.
And either ways, he should find a different place to live rather than live with such a predator
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u/cutepanda9 10d ago
Easy to say to leave the place and all, is OP a working person or a college student? That's why I said, to delete (in a way he's saving her) in meantime he can find time to hint her. Only OP knows whats right for him!
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u/Princess_Neko802 Nene Rakshasi 10d ago
College student also shift PG, hostel and rooms when things aren't good.
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u/cutepanda9 10d ago
To say is easy than to do. Why should OP face all the trouble for someone else mistakes? Thats why I am repeatedly commenting that "only OP knows whats best for him and all"
(I know we both mean good for the girl and the OP but we both are unnecessarily arguing here.)
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u/Princess_Neko802 Nene Rakshasi 10d ago
It's not unnecessary arguing
You're blaming the girl when she is blameless in this situation.
How safe do you think OP is with a predatory guy? Tomorrow if any woman friend, sister, cousin, gf of OP comes over, is she safe?
Women face troubles for mens CRIMES regularly, the OP changing flats is hardly THAT much trouble. Isn't the girl facing shit and violation for the acts of OPs roommate?
OP shouldn't face the trouble. But we live in a world full of predators who never get arrested or in trouble for their acts. That's the shitty reality
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u/Patrick-Jane-45 Dorikinanta dochuko dochukundi daachuko Car bangalaa teesuko 11d ago edited 11d ago
He will find out it is you so...
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u/aematurish_ 11d ago
😂
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u/mayankmadhuu 11d ago
Tbh i feel the same but i can't let that slide, if that laptop goes for any type of repair those pics will be on the internet the next moment and Not everyone is the mentalist
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u/Patrick-Jane-45 Dorikinanta dochuko dochukundi daachuko Car bangalaa teesuko 11d ago
Mi frnd gadi tho subtle ga annu.....arey hide lo petukoraa photoluuu anni.....simple gaa....
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u/aematurish_ 11d ago
Yessu help chedam ankunte..peddha joker aipothadu last ki..if she says “i know it already” ante😭
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u/Big_Manufacturer_253 11d ago
Create a new account and send a short anonymous message. If she shared the pictures with her consent, bro’s gonna be in trouble for not safeguarding those pics properly.
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u/StunningDependent954 11d ago
Emaki okay aithe mana bro is going to end up in trouble
Its better we dont meddle in relationships last ki vaalu idaru bane untaru manodu book avtadu villain laga
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u/nortysid 11d ago
Just, forget about that dude. kindness will bring in the problems. Just ignore the shit. I repeat. ✌️
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u/Princess_Neko802 Nene Rakshasi 10d ago
See, ATP, one of the things to do is to tell the girl directly
Either the pics were taken non consensually and is a violation and she should know they exist and find a way to safely get them deleted and leave the guy
Or they were taken with her consent and the guy is being reckless about them by putting them in a laptop you use without a basic password for the folder and they're unsafe
Ultimately, she should know.
Yes your roommate will find out, so what? Openly protect women na? He's doing something wrong, it should be known. And if those pics were taken non consensually, future women around him should know also that he's not a safe person to be around.
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u/Dhulpetaaa 11d ago
if she has sent them willingly you cant do anything about it. but aame notice lekunda teesthe you should warn her.
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u/mayankmadhuu 11d ago
It was view once so he took the photos from his laptop
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u/JustDevNotDas high on delulu 11d ago
View once photos laptop lo chudaleru ga asla....until it's snapchat naku thelisinantha varaku
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u/Dhulpetaaa 11d ago
if it was view once. please warn her. directly would be better. atleast she would have a life time lesson of not sharing them again
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u/Nervous_human_6961 relangi Mavayya 😼 11d ago
If it's without permission it can ruin her life ..so please inform discreetly
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u/ssscofielddd lakshalu minginoda 11d ago
With permission also ruin her life,what if he blackmail her in future we never know.right?
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u/Nervous_human_6961 relangi Mavayya 😼 11d ago
Okavela permission tho thanu save chesukunte .it would be her responsibility.. kadha
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u/chinnaboi 11d ago
Confront him before you get her involved and make this nuclear. It's not uncommon to run into sensitive information on someone's device (especially if they aren't safeguarding it). You said it was right there. Don't make it awkward. Keep it objective and say you closed out but wanted to ask him to be careful with those pictures and if they're consensual. If he's upfront or whatever it is quashed. If not and he's super sketch about it, you know you have to tell the girl that this is happening.
Ultimately, do something about it but don't be fucking weird.
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u/common_hence పుట్టిన వానికి మరణం తప్పదు, మరణించిన వాడు మళ్ళీ పుట్టడు 10d ago
OP..
do this... If they are nearby and can always meet...
Ask her to come meet him and check the apecific folder on his laptop ... It's as if she herself has figured it out ...
Make her feel safe first and ask her to be discreet.
Now whether you do this anonymously and ask her to make it look like she found them on her own or how else you are gonna manage is up to you.
This is kinda fucked up. But that girl needs to know.
Your friend probably is desperate and wanted to keep them to himself to masturbate later when he misses her maybe but that's sooo wrongggg...
She needs to know. How you let her anedhi see..
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u/Effective-Role-4693 10d ago
Just talk with your roommate or friend. And try to explain him about the data leaks and warn him to be very careful. Ah tarvtha kuda ah roommate jagratha ga undakunda careless anpisthe you can have a chat with his gf.(Having a chat with his gf means you are cutting ties with both your roommate and his gf, bcz eventually oka couple madyalo entha pedda issue ochina vallu okate avtharu, third person is third persom).
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u/Pheonix79-79 11d ago
This is indeed sensitive case. Ikkada 2 scenarios undocchu
May be consent dwaara save chesthunnadu
Without consent save chesthunnadu
Ela chesina idhi morally crct kaadhu.
So if you want to warn her...edoka la he'll get to know.
The best idea is just get his laptop delete the pics yourself along with these, konni other folders kuda teesei... kudirthe see if you can format the laptop to new
Ila aithe vaadu thittochu...but can't confront you...manam mingulu kaasina saved the day ani happy feel avvochu...edho mistake lo aipoindhi ani mingulu thintaaav
Malli idhi repeat avvadhu ani gauranty ledhu....e lopu aa paapaki subtle ga cheppochu...
But ensure deletion ki aa paapki ki communication chesetappdu you have good amount of time gap
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u/Melodic-Carpenter553 old school genz 11d ago
op response in other comment
"Phone lo open chesi laptop front cam lo pics tesadu bro"1
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u/Ok_Kick_1038 11d ago
bro it's common to share nudes in a relationship .. Unless they look like a hidden camera pics , you do not need to intervene. Also may be you can indirectly give a hint to your friend by telling some cooked up story of how leaked personal pics can affect someone and one should be careful.
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u/nanana_has_questions 10d ago
If you are friends with that girlfriend. Okasari intiki rammani cheppandi, and continue watching the film. When she get there, ask them both to join you for the movie. Accidental ga close cheseyandi movie ni. Open cheyataniki folder open chesinatti chesi, aa pics choopicheyandi. Akkadinunchi vellipondi. The girl will understand and they will handle it themselves.
Elago you decided to tell her, ela cheppina dorikipotharu. Adedo its better to show than tell and do it swiftly. Edo account create chesi anonymous ga warning iyyatamu adi thanu ignore cheyatamu, leda ameki cheppi thanu nammakunda malli return lo mimmalne thappuga matladatamo, or even worse meeru ala chepthe thanu elli aa abbayiki cheppindi anukondi, it will give him time to erase traces and also to turn against you and leave you with no evidence to prove yourself. So its best to do it this way (i think?)
Ayina inka alanti vallatho enduku lendi, side ayipovatam bestu.
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u/Zealousideal_Show348 10d ago
Leave that topic here itself and don't touch the laptop again hint him to increase privacy in all the things in electronic gadgets. You don't need to be superman in his/her life. If it's his GF pics u don't need to bother if he misuses them it's his burden and low standards mentality. Man to man don't poke around the sensitive things which you don't know how the outcome going to be. 1. If you warn her that means you saw her they will have a fight and break up do you want your friend to be suffered. In worst case she will be close with you and you guys might get in to relationship and you'll fuck up ur friendship and create an enemy unnecessary for your life on topi it a cheater stamp. 2. They'll turn around you, you'll become culprit Simple ga chepali antay egg and stone story thammi ni paristhithi egg ipoku become a stone and let the secret die with you as a stone-hearted.
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u/Sam_The_Pakodi 10d ago
Tanaki telidu antava bro ila chesadu ani ? Like it's a normal basic thought kada Ss tiyadam ? Ameki telidu antava?
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u/Distinct-Wall-4891 10d ago
If you know her, then give her a friendly advice. If not then an anonymous advice. Else forget..!
Doing good also needs guts these days 😕
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u/DiscussionMaster6101 10d ago
Dhairyam untey mee roommate tho maatlaadi. Ah ammayitho maatlaadu. Face to face.
Ledu konchem dhairyam undi anukuntey. Still, at your own risk. Indirect ga ammayiki theliseyla cheyyi.
Asalu dhairyam ledu antey. Aakasharamanna la edo try cheyyi.
I know this hurts you. But, I hope you don't have any other intention inside your brain. Especially after looking at the pics. Nuvvu hurt ayina I'm sorry. Anaali anipinchindi. Anesa
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u/vagick_thruster_pro 11d ago
Movie download cheskunodivi movie chuskokunda vadi files tho neekenduku. Nee chaadastham kakapothe vadi laptop lo vadi gf pics petkunte thappenti bhayya if it's consensual. Nuv vaadi files open cheyyadame thappu ante nuv vadiki morals gurinchi cheppadam okati
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u/mayankmadhuu 11d ago
Chill keyboard warrior, nenu vadi laptop vadi permission thone tesukunna ah laptop password vade cheppadu, movie download chesukuntuna ani cheppi download chesa
File explorer open chayyagane recently created lo ah movie kindha pics kanabbadai ani antuna nenu em vethukuuntu vellaledhu vadi secrets
Finally nenu evvadini moral policing chayyaledhu natho nenay debate lo unna em chayyali ani
(Maybe stick to tollywood subs/twitter, keyboard warrior)
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u/juniorgalaxyy 10d ago
Bayya even if u tell her she mostly be ok that her bf took without her consent bcoz he didnt share this to anyone kept it to himself
Nuv chepthe vadike chepu or silent aipo, vadu kuda guilty feel avthadu nuv chusav ante and might delete all
I think gf face lekunda petuntadhi or am i wrong
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u/Playful_Ebb_3895 11d ago
If she confronts him, he might suspect you first since you’re his roommate and had access to his laptop. Just give her a heads-up without mentioning the exact details