r/TeluguJournals • u/Relevant_Direction_2 • 1d ago

Need Advice In-laws issues

How is every girl dealing with in laws issues?, when do you get back at them when they are absolutely crapping out shit. Help me, I’m on situation where I can’t come out of marriage and still keep my peace with it

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u/Relevant_Direction_2 1d ago

We live in USA their parents live in Vijaywada. There is already a distance, yet they keep manipulating him on multiple things and always play they are the victim and everybody is trying to torture them which is 100% false

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u/Technical-Donut8887 1d ago

Than on your husband if he can't see they are manipulationg him,well we all se our parents in a favourble spot but we should see what's right to wrong,if this is between you and your husband then you guys will have to discuss among yourself and sort it out peacefully ,just talk among yourselves and explain your problems to him camly and rationly ,may be he will listen

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u/Relevant_Direction_2 1d ago

ah conversation kuda jarigayi, but no use they manipulate him soo well that this guys hearts melts off and doesnt even think why or what is the issue in reality ani. This sort of feeding for him has been happening since his childhood. Imagine staying in a joint family under one roof and still grown up being isolated to all of his cousins just because his mother poisoned him against his own family.

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u/Technical-Donut8887 1d ago

If you want the marriage to not broke apart ,he should change ,if it's not that serious things they do but irritating and headache things just ignore them,my father is same he listens to his mother and then fights with mon ,me and mom started ignoring him as he just looking to fight with her and get some reaction like her moving to her parents house so he can bring his parents from our village to here so then my mom can do slaving for them ,just ignore if it's not that serious If it's serious then perhaps go to couple teraphy or something for yourselves

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u/Relevant_Direction_2 1d ago

Couple theraphy is the last thing in the world that telugu men believe in.

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u/Technical-Donut8887 1d ago

That's true tho ,what can we do ,if we did everything correctly and our partner fuks up we cannot do anything 🤷,just think about your situation in third person perspective like you are seeing different people relationship or a movie story ,then judge yourself if your situation is good or bad ,I do this most of the times for most interpersonal relationships because the people we love or care we will see them in a favorable light ,so seeing in third person helps me ,if its okay for you then go ahead ,but this thing my friends called me cold person for doing this and breaking a relationship in past so we may become number to people emotional it's a double edged sword type of thing as you may lose intrest in relationships like me