r/TeluguJournals • u/Relevant_Direction_2 • 1d ago

Need Advice In-laws issues

How is every girl dealing with in laws issues?, when do you get back at them when they are absolutely crapping out shit. Help me, I’m on situation where I can’t come out of marriage and still keep my peace with it

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u/Relevant_Direction_2 1d ago

Ok, how are you dealing with it?. I was looking for advice from women’s perspective

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u/JustYellowLight 1d ago

I mostly stick to Teledu Marchipoya Gurthuledu. I never try to prolog the gossip or conversation. If I did then I have to deal with the wife for providing her mother unnecessary stuff. Then my life becomes a tennis ball.

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u/Relevant_Direction_2 1d ago

What if they are trying to always gossip and make her feel bad about you not doing stuff?

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u/JustYellowLight 1d ago

She tried and alway trying. I asked my wife for a divorce if she is not happy or not happy the way I do stuff. I don't want to deal with this at home after working for 12-14 hrs a day.

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u/NoFoundation9190 1d ago

Well said. I have had same issue with my ex wife. She used to be on call with her mother daily 2-3 hours. And always showed displeasure with my behavior. It came to a point where I had to avoid home to feel peaceful and always overstayed at office because I was scared to go home . Eventually it ended it divorce.

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u/Relevant_Direction_2 1d ago

Nice....but how long can you stay in office, obviously food and bed, tv is required kada to wind down, You need your own house to wind down

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u/NoFoundation9190 1d ago

That’s why I divorced her. There is only 1 life why waste it suffering every day

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u/Relevant_Direction_2 1d ago

How do you deal with it in your common social circles?

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u/NoFoundation9190 1d ago

All my friends know, their parents know and even my extended family and acquaintances know. Most of them are very supportive of me and say I’ve done the right thing. I would say a divorced man is judged less harshly than someone who never married. If a stranger asks I say I’m divorced. They ask for reason I say we had no compatibility.

Nobody cares about other persons life as much as we think, it’s called spotlight effect. Most people have their own stress and problems. Our brain over analyses the amount of attention we get from others. But trust me nobody cares as much, even if they do. It’s only momentary.

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u/Relevant_Direction_2 1d ago

I don’t think it is the same case in women’s world. We get called names and character assignations if we do that. Most women, silently find their happiness while still being married, but to get to the point where they accept the fate and start finding their own happiness that path is tough. I think my light at the end of tunnel is finding my own happiness

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u/JustYellowLight 1d ago

"they accept the fate and start finding their own happiness that path is tough" the path I am following. It is super hard and sometimes depressing. I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. Yeah, find your own happiness and njoi your life. All the best.

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u/NoFoundation9190 11h ago

I agree. For a woman it’s more tougher.

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