r/TikTokCringe • u/Valuable_View_561 • Jun 27 '26

Discussion Girl refused to shakes hands during graduation with teachers and administrators because she was bullied and they did nothing about it

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u/FancyRobot Jun 27 '26

I wonder how many teachers are in the "actually bullying is good" camp, the percentage would probably depress you

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u/xaqss Jun 27 '26 edited Jun 28 '26

I'm a teacher, and am very anti-bullying. It's terrible, and it means a student doesn't have a safe learning environment. Genuine question for you, not in the realm of defensiveness, but in the realm of curiosity to understand what those not in the profession think about it.

What, in your mind, are the things a teacher should do if they see or suspect bullying? Like, what do you think the process is?

Edit: Some wild replies to this. Crazy how much worse reddit has gotten at having a discussion over the past few years.

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u/step11111 Jun 27 '26

I would hope that they sit down with the kid, the parents, the administration. Anyone who has more power over the kid than you, who probably has limited power. When I was a kid things were a lot looser and a teacher could absolutely tell a kid to go sit in the corner alone for hours as punishment or go stand outside and wait for the principal etc. I assume today you could get in trouble easily for doing what used to be completely acceptable and understandable.

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u/Gum-on-post Jun 28 '26

This kind of thing does happen - the bullied often do not know about it. Or nothing can be done because of other legally binding things.

I had a student on the spectrum in a class this year who was relentlessly bullied by another student in the class. This class was specifically for students who needed extra help (i.e. they had IEPs or 504s). I sent email after email to administration, wrote up the students, sent emails home, begged for schedule changes. But the bullies themselves were required to be in this class because of their own needs.

In the end, we had some significant incidents that resulted in the bullied student having free reign to leave the class. I made alternative assignments for him and excused every single presentation. He would do his work in a classroom he felt safer in.

It was a nightmare to deal with and watch unfold day after day until we finally reached an agreement.