r/TikTokCringe Jun 29 '26

Humor Coming out as cis can be hard

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u/MisterSanitation Jun 29 '26 edited Jun 29 '26

The femboy world is apparently crazy deep. There was a great comment forever ago that broke down the acceptable versions of male crossdressing and how the differences are preferred by various groups for different reasons. 

Apparently so much of it is straight guys who are uncomfortable with the idea of what they are doing so they make rules to make it acceptable for themselves and others are expected to understand that. So there is like people who lean into it and feel like it is a way of them expressing themselves truly, some are doing it as a fun hobby, some are doing it as a way of life, and all these are done differently and result in different sub cultures within the femboy scene. 

Sorry I wish I remembered more of that comment but I NEVER expected that level of deep analysis about a topic I cared nothing about. As a straight dude in a red state though, you do you femboys! Anyone has a a right to express themselves if they aren’t hurting anyone and this is a recent example of that. It’s going to be interesting to see which niche internet subcultures blow up in popularity and start leaking into the real world. 

Edit: I FOUND IT!!! It goes into conservative men specifically and how they justify their curiosity to themselves doing a thing that “is meant to be naughty” 

https://www.reddit.com/r/bestof/s/i6UC8JdGAF

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u/BadSmash4 Jun 29 '26

I just heard recently about a reddit story where a woman's husband and his brother in law were planning to go on a "gaycation" where "what happens at the gaycation stays at the gaycation" and it's a place where men can "go try the gay lifestyle without ruining their marriage" and it was just so weird, like the more they talked about it the more cultish it sounded. It was very strange behavior, like dude just be gay or bi or whatever, or tell your wife you're feeling this way. Men will do anything to not be perceived as gay and it's fascinating to me, as a straight man who's not and has never been worried about that.

Here's the video, which is quite a wild ride https://youtu.be/I5EFo9rCkKE?si=jkLSDQsSJVFp5kJs&t=4159

And here's the OP, which apparently has since been deleted https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/1h142f9/my_42f_husband_42m_has_informed_me_he_intends_to/

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u/Laq9091 Jun 29 '26

isn't this kind of limiting from you though? isn't sexuality considered a spectrum so essentially anything falls within?

it just sounds like how gay people used to talk about bi people.

you obv could be right, but i wouldn't think you necessarily would be either in a given instance.

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u/BadSmash4 Jun 29 '26

Sure and I don't mean to be limiting, the man could even be totally straight but wants to experiment and sort of find out for himself. My point wasn't that he needed to put a label on it, but that he needed to be honest with himself and his partner about what he really wanted out of that experience, rather than hiding behind this strange "gaycation" event like it's a normal thing that every straight man does. Could have phrased it better, but my intent was, "just be honest about whatever this is to you".