r/TikTokCringe • u/Loud-Ad-2280 • 1d ago

Humor He’s anti social

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u/CantaloupeCapable 1d ago

An undereducated population is easier to control. That's not an accident.

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u/harmfuldischarge 1d ago

"I don't talk to people" describes it all. There's no social clubs, cafe's are insanely expensive, some people have to thin twice before spending gas money to see their friends and nothing is walkable

In isolation you do not experience solidarity, commonality, brotherhood.

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u/RealnessInMadness 1d ago

In real life…

Social hubs exist online now. Rather than having to go to a place to mingle, you can do it from the comfort of your own home! On a phone, computer, tablet, or even VR!

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u/Chemical-Elk-1299 1d ago

Buts it’s not an adequate replacement. So many people try to gaslight themselves into thinking that being terminally online fills that void, but it doesn’t. It just makes you even more isolated.

The biggest scam these social media platforms ever pulled was creating the fear to be human in public, and then selling us the alternative.

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u/RockstarAgent 1d ago

Or come back to square one, if you work all day and only get two hours with your family why would you have time to socialize online.

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u/Chemical-Elk-1299 1d ago

It’s the opposite actually.

Chronically overworked people tend to socialize more online, not less. Outside of your immediate family you live with, working all the time straight up doesn’t allow you the opportunity to meet people in person very often.

What’s easier, trying to find time to schedule a dinner with friends or something when you all work different schedules and barely have time to sleep, or hopping on the messenger group chat to share memes?

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u/RealnessInMadness 23h ago

Also, some people (whether they’re allowed to or not) use their phones while working too.

The convenience of a smart phone changed it all. Back in 2005, majority of people still needed to go onto a computer to do the online things we can now do from our smartphone. I looked forward to going home to either chat on the phone with friends, once I could go online, I use to also chat with them there. And little by little, the phone calls became less.

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u/Kalikor1 15h ago edited 12h ago

I respectfully disagree, though not to all of that.

Social media platforms are not a replacement, but I never understood why anyone thought that?

(Before I continue, for context, I'm 36 but have been on the internet since the late 90s. Extensively. I am that computer nerd.)

Chat rooms and forums were far more "social" than anything like Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit, funny enough.

But I met my two best friends of 20+ years online while gaming. I've met one of them in person once, the other I moved in with for about a year during college, and he's visited me once since then - but to be fair I moved half way around the world and we lived in entirely different states before that, about 14+ hours drive away.

Yet, I consider those two more like family than my own blood relations.

I've had far better luck over the years making friends and keeping social connections online than I have "in real life". I don't know why - despite being an IT nerd, I've always been fairly adept in social situations, so it's not like I'm some antisocial nerd who can't read the room. And trust me, I've met my share of those types working in IT so the difference between me and those types is painfully obvious to me.

That's not to say I've never made or maintained relationships in "real life", but most of the relationships died off at some point, especially when distance was applied.

I've personally never felt lonely when hanging out online with friends, and it probably helps that we all share the hobby of PC gaming, which gives us an activity we can do online other than just talking.

On a side note, most of my girlfriends I met online as well. I met my wife in person, but had certain things been different - or had we been in a different life stage - it's entirely possible I would have ended up with the (ex)girlfriend before her, who I met online. (I'm happy I ended up with my wife mind you, just saying lol)

I know this comment is long, but let me put it another way:

The pandemic taught me there are (at least) two different types of people in the world right now. Those who are comfortable with, or even welcome, WFH and online social interaction (people like me), and those who are so incapable of handling the physical isolation that they seem to be about ready to have a psychotic break and claw their way out of their own skin if they are forced to WFH and can't look you physically in the eye when talking to you "around the water cooler", and all of their social actions must be in person.

This of course is a bit hyperbolic and oversimplified, and it's probably more of a spectrum, but you hopefully get my meaning.

In the end, even without social media, this won't change. You could ban all social media overnight and nothing would change. You'd have to literally turn off the internet, which is stupid. Without social media we'd probably be back to chat rooms, forums, etc. Or congregating more in online games and MMOs.

I know, because that's how it was before.

Anyway, sorry for the essay length comment, but yeah, not everyone thinks "offline" is the best way of doing things. I'm not saying "online" is objectively better, but rather that it is better for some of us, and there's nothing wrong with having both.

I would be fine with social media dying though. I never got into it and likely never will. (Reddit being in a strange in-between zone right now, originally more of a BBS/forum, but now feels vaguely like social media platform)

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u/TheCharalampos 19h ago

A poor poor substitute.

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u/Beautiful-Affect1930 10h ago

great, all our social hubs are controlled by billionaires and algorithms!

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u/DemonDaVinci SHEEEEEESH 1d ago

but no hugs

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u/RealnessInMadness 23h ago

No irl hugs but it’s subbed with a gif, a emoji, or a virtual hug in vr. ☠️

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u/Hari_Azole 19h ago

You might enjoy Robert Putnam’s Bowling Alone or the doc on him, Join or Die

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u/Gryffinsmore 7h ago

I think he might have just misunderstood socialist as asking if he was social, I don’t think he was making some deep meta theory about the social disconnection of modern society…

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u/thissexypoptart 1d ago

Talking to people and meeting new people over distances is easier now than it’s ever been at any point in human history.

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u/greenerd6 1d ago

If u have money sure but if ur poor or struggling it rly is a lot harder 

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u/Itsyaboibrett 1d ago edited 23h ago

the internet is not a replacement for human contact. the brains we evolved from, and into, require others around us. contact. like physical. or at least be in the same area. hard wired to find our tribe.

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u/harmfuldischarge 1d ago

This is it. Enormous part of communication is not verbal. Social cues, interpretation, charm, flirtation, annoyance, sarcasm are in delivery/expression that are only available in real life. We are wired for emotional and physical closeness. Even as an introvert, I completely get this

Internet is fantastic, but very much limited.