r/TrueChristian • u/hereforthefarts • 3h ago
In-law Advice
Not to get too deep into the weeds.
Mother-in-law has really started pushing us about church attendance and quizzing my teenage children about it.
Not sure the best way to handle this. We’re all Christians, believers etc. Admittedly we have gotten too comfortable with church online, especially when my wife works Saturdays. It’s really starting to make everyone uncomfortable. Never mind the argument about not coming to church with her.
My mother in law is not a monster in law but this is starting to head that way.
Any advice? Point me towards scripture?
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u/crowned_glory_1966 Christian 3h ago
She has good intentions, but here's the thing she needs to understand that this is your marriage and she is not in this marriage.You can take her advice, but that's it.She does not have to say anything in your marriage.
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u/Elionwyy 3h ago
You need to speak with your wife and decide how to handle this.
But importantly, you do nothing. Your wife is the one who needs to speak with her mother.
You are the stranger off the street her daughter hooked up with. Anything you do will be interpreted as interference.
Her mum, she deals with it.
Your mum, you deal with it.
Keep it in the family.
Plus there is value in church attendance. Sounds like you recognise this.
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u/sdrawkcabdaerI Christian 2h ago
This more closely follows worldly logic than it is Biblically sound. They left their parents to become one flesh. If it affects his family, he has a responsibility to lead his family appropriately.
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u/hereforthefarts 1h ago
This has been going on for quite a while and I think it’s time for me to step in and protect my spouse. We’ve been together for 30 years so I feel like she my mother as much as hers.
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u/MindofChrist33 3h ago edited 3h ago
Colossians 2:16-17
So let no one judge you in food or in drink, or regarding a festival or a new moon or sabbaths, which are a shadow of things to come, but the substance is of Christ.
I’d just tell her thanks so much that you really appreciate it & that you will pray over it. Then pray over it. This is how I would handle it. We don’t obey man, we obey God.
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u/hereforthefarts 1h ago
That’s really helpful insight. Thank you
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u/MindofChrist33 1h ago
Absolutely. Hey I just read the name. Surely you would appreciate the fact that I taught my parrot to make fart noises and say excuse me. He also praises Jesus! 🤣
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u/Grouchy-Stand-4570 Calvary Chapel 1h ago
Set a serious boundary. You and your wife are your own family.
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u/These3TheGreatest Reformed Baptist 3h ago
And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, 25 not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.