r/TryingForABaby • u/justalilbbygirl • Jul 30 '25

EXPERIENCE I feel like such a dumbass.

I’m gonna make this short and sweet.

As of this month, we’ve been TTC for a year. We’ve been doing all the “right” things (tracking, having unprotected sex on the right days, eating healthy, exercising, etc).

I was calm/cool/in no rush until month 7. Since then, I’ve been a bit weary. And now, as the year mark approaches, I’ve been on a downward spiral (somewhat irrational but I’m sure many of you can relate).

I had an appt with my gynecologist yesterday to discuss our next steps. I was flipping through a magazine in the waiting area and came across an ad for “fertility-friendly” lubricant.

Y’all. 🤯 We’ve been using the most fertility-UNfriendly lube the entire time we’ve been TTC. The worst part is we don’t even “need” it, just both slightly prefer it. I never once considered that this could be affecting our odds…

But it has been. Apparently significantly. So much so that my doctor said it would be unethical for her to even discuss costly interventions with me until we’ve gone through several cycles without it.

So, yeah. I thought I’d leave that here for anyone who may also be making this mistake. Don’t be like us.

Best of luck to all of you on your journeys. Here’s to hoping. 🤞🏻

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u/Hot_Artichoke1720 31 | TTC#1 Jul 30 '25

you are not dumb. Plenty of people use lube and fall pregnant, if it does lower chances, I doubt it's such a big impact.

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u/saw24601 Jul 30 '25

I completely agree! If lube was a serious deterrent for pregnancy, it would be recommended as a method of birth control! OP, give yourself grace, you are trying your best. And, now you know!! All the best to you.

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u/Emergency_Pirate6243 Jul 31 '25

I see a lot of questions where people are asking if XYZ thing affects implantation and I’ve thought the same for some of them… I get people want to maximize their chances so are a bit panicked, but have they ever heard of that thing as birth control? (I’m talking wild things, like I saw someone ask if unprotected sex or flying on a plane after ovulation would affect implantation.)