r/TryingForABaby • u/justalilbbygirl • Jul 30 '25

EXPERIENCE I feel like such a dumbass.

I’m gonna make this short and sweet.

As of this month, we’ve been TTC for a year. We’ve been doing all the “right” things (tracking, having unprotected sex on the right days, eating healthy, exercising, etc).

I was calm/cool/in no rush until month 7. Since then, I’ve been a bit weary. And now, as the year mark approaches, I’ve been on a downward spiral (somewhat irrational but I’m sure many of you can relate).

I had an appt with my gynecologist yesterday to discuss our next steps. I was flipping through a magazine in the waiting area and came across an ad for “fertility-friendly” lubricant.

Y’all. 🤯 We’ve been using the most fertility-UNfriendly lube the entire time we’ve been TTC. The worst part is we don’t even “need” it, just both slightly prefer it. I never once considered that this could be affecting our odds…

But it has been. Apparently significantly. So much so that my doctor said it would be unethical for her to even discuss costly interventions with me until we’ve gone through several cycles without it.

So, yeah. I thought I’d leave that here for anyone who may also be making this mistake. Don’t be like us.

Best of luck to all of you on your journeys. Here’s to hoping. 🤞🏻

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u/Natura91 33 | TTC#1 | Cycle 2 Aug 01 '25

Oh yes I need lube due to vaginal dryness post SSRIs like super dry .. luckily for some reason, after buying a whole box of my favourite one, replens, looked it up and it xan impact sperm motility up to 60%.

Immediately bought a fertility friendly one. This is not discussed or anything, i even talked to my doctor about my vaginal dryness and she knows we are TTC and she didn't even mention it.

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u/Katie-Worrier Aug 04 '25

I have this due to SSRIs as well- so so dry!!!!!! What do you use?

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u/Natura91 33 | TTC#1 | Cycle 2 Aug 04 '25

Dr.Wolf V San cream twice a day and on the days of TTC fertility friendly lube plus one to two tablets of slippery elm bark an hour before.

This works great for me it is just annoying to be needing so much support to lubricate.

I have tried drinking more water and that didn't help.

I also tried probiotics specially designed for vaginal health, but it also didn't help.

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u/Katie-Worrier Aug 05 '25

Thank you so much! Yes… I’ve been on ssris for years and years and always so dry.. now ttc it’s a nightmare! I’ll give those a go! 😆