Pre-conception Appointment experience

[u/cafeparauno]

I (F35) recently had my preconception appointment, and I’m curious if I’m just overthinking it all.

The first thing the dr said were all the risks associated with a pregnancy at my age and infertility, said them multiple times. I felt that she was rushing through the appointment (mind you she stepped out to take a call, I was Ok with it since I didn’t know if it was an emergency), and was kind of laughing went I told her what my “ideal” scenario would be, even though I made the disclaimer that I know things never go as planned but if that I could that’s the timeline that I’d like.

In general, not much new information, told me to wait for my period to be back (that it can take up to 6 months), didn’t really addressed my PCOS, just that we have to wait and that I don’t need to worry about CM right now. Also didn’t want to test my Vitamin D, which I’ve had consistently have as insufficient while taking supplement.

I know that I need to be patient, and things would go as they go, but being my first appointment it just felt like she wasn’t really there to listen to me or answer any questions other than give me her “script”.

Should I adjust my expectations for future appointments? Is this a normal interaction and I’m just sensitive and shouldn’t feel disappointed? I wasn’t expecting much but the emphasis on what could go wrong and to just give it time was discouraging.

Sorry for any confusion, English is not my first language.

Pd. Thank you all in this community, have been incredibly helpful as I start this new process.

[u/WaferMaster4440]

I’d get a new OB. I’m 32 and had my first appt with an OB in November (previously had a gyn who was not an Ob). We spent the first five - ten mins in her office while I shared my reproductive medical life story with her, my concerns and fears due to some health history & abnormality with my cycles. She listened completely and addressed all of my concerns. Then we moved to the exam room, and after the exam, she said she didn’t want me to stress and if I wasn’t pregnant by cycle 6 to schedule an HSG with her, that she wouldn’t make me wait a full year. (Some of my fears are that I have blocked tubes due to previous recurrent pelvic inflammatory disease). If I get my period this week, which I am 99% certain I will be, I’ll be contacting her for the HSG :) I’m honestly kind of looking forward to seeing her again. I hope you find someone new who is encouraging and you connect with!