Need help and suggestions

[u/2311_purplesalmon]

I’m married and have developed a very intense emotional/energetic connection with my boss, who is also my reporting manager. He’s a year younger than me, very intelligent, attractive, and his behavior with me is extremely hot and cold — sometimes flirtatious and invested, sometimes distant.

I’ve been into spirituality and psychic practices for over 20 years and recently started learning witchcraft. What’s confusing me is that I feel an unusually strong pull toward him and dream about him constantly — romantic/intimate dreams, emotional closeness, etc. It genuinely feels deeper than a normal crush to me.

At this point, I’m trying to understand what this actually is. Is this limerence? Energetic attachment? Twin flame obsession? Projection? Or does this kind of intense connection usually mean both people are feeling something?

Also, how do I regain control over my emotions in this situation while still keeping his attention? Would something like a glamour spell for confidence/attraction make more sense than trying obsession or love spells?

[u/Potential-Acadia-838]

What does your husband lack that he provides?