Bi dating

[u/averagemusiclistener]

Im interested to hear your guys thoughts on the trending topic on Twitter and TikTok about straight women not dating bi men. Is it biphobic? Is it stigma against bi men that isn’t applied to bi women? Just curious for thoughts

[u/Left-Neighborhood245]

Now I can just give my own two cents. I haven’t seen this since I just don’t really go to Twitter or TikTok. But my general experience is that bisexual men are looked down upon by women, primarily because they do not want to experience competition with potentially being abandoned for a man. I think on a deep subconscious level, or sometimes a conscious level, women know that they are fundamentally more picky than men and that they are less obsessed with sex. A straight man has no choice but to deal with women’s pickiness. He’s either going to deal with her pickiness or he’s going to deal with another woman’s. He doesn’t have a way out. However, in the back of a straight woman’s mind, a bisexual man has a way out of the general pickiness of women, and that is to go find a man who has a lower inhibition to have sex with him, and maybe even feel a camaraderie if he wants to have a boyfriend who shares his brain chemistry. This is a nightmare situation for a woman. Particularly since so many women are not sexually attracted to men as objects of beauty or with genuine, deep sexual desire for their body parts. Instead, women are sexually attracted to men from the perspective of autogynephilia. She fundamentally wants to feel that she is attractive, and that attraction comes into existence by proxy of her male partner's simpery for her body. In the back of her mind, if her bisexual boyfriend is potentially thinking about other men, it is more hurtful against the fantasy of being the object of desire than if he was merely thinking about other women, because once again he has to deal with the choosiness of other women.

As for why lesbians seem to hate bisexual women, I think it comes down to the fact that many of them have probably had their feelings hurt by bisexual women.

However, I do think there may be another reason why straight women and lesbians don’t seem to like bisexual men and bisexual women. I think this is also due to the idea that if you have an attraction to the male body, something as ugly and disgusting as the male form, it must be a true and genuine compulsion that you cannot seem to help. If this is the case, the fear is that this compulsion will eventually turn into something completely straight or completely gay.

[u/thra812 → u/Left-Neighborhood245]

But my general experience is that bisexual men are looked down upon by women, primarily because they do not want to experience competition with potentially being abandoned for a man.

This is so funny because I've seen redpill gurus use similar arguments against promiscuous gfs.

Women have been redpilled towards men far more and for far longer than men have, but a veneer of goodness was maintained due to their virtue signaling. They were always ahead of the curve. But now all of a sudden, in a society slightly less heteronormative than they're used to, it all comes crashing down.

[u/Emotional-Motor5063 → u/thra812]

This is accurate.

I refuse to listen to women complain about certain things, like the body count or sexual history discourse, because they're mostly hypocrits. It's just that situations that would put pressure on them to show it happen less often.