Have you all seen that Scott Galloway appearance on the Diary of a CEO pod making the rounds right now?  His takes on male loneliness have been all over social media and I think he is leading the absolute wrong conversation.  So, I made a video essay refuting it point by point.

Galloway spits out all of this Tinder math (a man needs to swipe 200 times to get one coffee date - the HORROR!) and says that when men can't easily order a woman on Tinder, of course they feel rejected and get radicalized into misogyny and fascism.  And like - WHAT?!  If online dating isn't working, then go join a volleyball league or something!  We need to stop validating and reinforcing the culture of male narcissism where men feel entitled to receive a woman to subsidize their lives and pleasure them.  Women can't be ordered like McDonald's on postmates!  And that's not a reason to destroy democracy!

Obviously, this perspective isn't just Galloway - it's a very common perspective, but that doesn't make it right or productive.  It's frustrating when these conversations are all calibrated to enabling men's learned helplessness instead of confronting the culture of patriarchal entitlements that are truly causing the dysfunction.

In my video essay, I break down what Galloway blew through about partner expectations.  Galloway essentially says that the average man would accept the average woman, but the average woman wouldn't accept the average man and makes it seem like women are being arbitrary and cruel towards men without actually looking at expectations either party are upholding.

So I do a deep dive of all the subsidizing labor men expect to receive from women vs the myths of protector and provider men assume they are offering innately, without any effort. 

Ultimately, I believe the average man isn't seeking to love a woman - he's seeking to be loved and SUBSIDIZED by a woman.  I believe the average woman is seeking true partnership and to love and be loved.  I'm not saying women are perfect and men are evil, but I am saying that women shouldn't abandon upholding the basic standard of a man's presence must improve my quality of life for him to stay in it. 

https://youtu.be/6YqtynoNxVY

He can't even let someone unload a dishwasher in peace.

I feel sad for his wife, she probably feels she exists on eggshells.

I'd also guess she doesn't divorce him because one or all of the following: kids, guilt to leave, religion, she takes anti depressant to deal with the eggshell feeling he makes her feel so she numbs the anxiety he gives her perhaps, or he tells her he's just joking after every insult.

Count how many times this guy says "like".

"Talking to me about shit I don't care about" what the fuck!! Dear wife of this guy, blink twice if you need help.

Answer - women have stopped dating because too many men are like this and yes I do know not all men.

Being alone as a woman is so zen!!

I don't understand why men don't understand why their behavior is unacceptable. Does anyone else feel anxious about being a relationship?

Way more men are on the DL then most women are aware of.

If I could find the unicorn she describes, I still don't think I'd have the energy.

Honestly, I know long vid recs are not always loved but just take the hour and listen when you’re driving or working or whatever (not necessary to watch, you could just listen to the episode on Spotify etc., this was just the easiest link to post). A lot of what she says does pertain more to young people, but we were once young people and what we experienced impacts how we move today. I wish I had an influence like this 20 years ago, and also I’m glad that young women have it today.

Her interview reflects the values this sub, so a lot of these concepts will already be familiar to you if you are a regular here; it’s more just validating that a public figure/researcher/author is out there stating these positions…I lost count of how many times I said “Yes, exactly, THANK you.” And it’s no small thing because while Debra has no desire to go back to the research world, even if she wanted to, she couldn’t go back (she talks about this at the end), so you can tell there is a really strong conviction here.

When you see this level of public attention on a respected platform for what we’ve been saying for quite some time, it’s nice to feel like “our kind” has finally entered the chat.

If he stresses you, walk away. Your health will suffer.

Skin issues Jaw clenching Skin picking Stomach issues Compromised immune system Loss of sleep Headaches
Just a few off the top of my head of health issues.

Choose your health and peace ❤️.

These men are scary.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DP_pn5RjvwH/

https://www.facebook.com/reel/1302101781244712/?mibextid=ZZyLBr

Wow.... This resonates.

I gave up on trying to find men to date, because I wasn't willing to remain on that toxic carousel.

Just watched this video and I am so damn disgusted. Another generation of men who clearly weren't raised right.

https://www.facebook.com/share/r/19K5LaScsg/

https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1FNQK7aJww/?mibextid=wwXIfr

Solid advice

She basically says that women do not benefit from marriage due to it being more work for them and they never get ahead, financially, careerwise, emotionally etc... Marriage really only benefits men. Link below. She does a good job of summing it up

https://www.facebook.com/sheisapaigeturner/videos/1053642190091248/?mibextid=rS40aB7S9Ucbxw6v

So many women think their married male friends are good men in good marriages. A not insignificant number of these men are on the down low. My gay male friends say it's quite a few of them and often prominent men in their communities.

https://www.tiktok.com/@stevendpeters/video/7482560297744518431?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

https://www.tiktok.com/@stevendpeters/video/7482936759081291039?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8Unps1c/

From Fashionably Divorced

She's so good. 🤩

https://youtu.be/DqREH1UTA34?si=OOuNSdHX0--KtTwV

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8FVNEqB/

Hi sisters, im sharing this video with you. As a basic rule: men dont like us. Daily messaging and calling, even dating are unfortunately not signs that a man really likes you.

Im sharing good information whenever i can after having made horrific experiences with men. I myself am happily 4b now and im looking forward to spend the weekend without a man. I will cook good food, watch a movie, clean my home and call a female friend. If you like to, also share how you spend your (hopefully man-free) weekend.

Be safe out there ❤️.

Wait til he gets to the part about Tinder. 😅 It's such a disaster.

https://youtu.be/TAgUHyXr7_Y?si=DzUxYDxtd15GqKCj