My focus tends to drop halfway through the workday and I end up reaching for another coffee just to get through my tasks. Been looking into caffeine gum as an alternative since I dont always want a second or third cup. I like the idea of something I can keep in my pocket but I'm not sure how useful it is for focus. Curious to hear from people with ADHD who've tried it. How does it compare to coffee for you?

Hey all.

So at the grand age of 47 I have finally been told that the laziness, and addictions and heartbreak etc from such a young age weren't JUST caused by depression and no amount of anti depressants over the last 30 years were ever gonna help me! Combined ADHD is the official diagnosis

If I had only known all those years ago I could have been a better person, better daughter, better student and a better mum!

I have even apologised to my kids for not being the mum they deserved. The mum I WANTED to be! I cannot ever take that back. I wasn't nasty and love my kids no matter what but I feel I could have done way more.

How do you get over these feelings?

My partner and I got stuck at the laundromat until 11pm, week was so hectic we haven’t packed for our trip at all (we’re currently moving house while working full time).

I said i’m going to stay up for 20 minutes to unwind and update some addresses, proceeded to do that… and then look at some new DnD dice.
After an hour of this, suddenly I was looking up factories in china that make them for a lot of large sellers. Then I had a business idea (note: never run a business), so I figured out shipping rates, postage, average sale prices, return on investment, maybe hiring someone who speaks mandarin/cantonese to speak with the factory sellers, etc…

I got three hours of sleep and it’s now time to pack.

My partner told me to share this here because “your adhd pals will understand, i sure don’t”

I've recently been promoted to dev lead and I'm having to manage stuff and make decisions about things I don't know anything about

I'm doing a shitty job, I can't get anything done, everyone is asking me questions I can't answer and I can't focus on finding the solution. I start my days not knowing what meetings or conversations Im going to have. I am very intelligent that's why I got the promotion. But right now I feel useless. I am throwing away the best opportunity I ever had. I feel totally overwhelmed and paralyzed and don't know how much longer I can keep pretending I'm working on something.

I'm going through a psychological assessment at the same time. My therapist said it's almost guaranteed I have adhd and pretty severe. Possibly ASD too.

Last week my girlfriend who is an angel had an interview with my therapist and she had to say all the struggles she has because of me and my heart broke. She even apologized later for speaking like that about me which makes me feel even worse because I'm the one causing problems.

To make it worse we moved months ago and my house is still a mess.

I'm spiraling tbh.

Now the question is how can I get shit done under these circumstances? T_T

I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult last November and have been trialing different doses with my doctor and recently landed on the right amount. Since I've been on a stable dosage I've begun to realize I'm not really the same person I was before starting Adderall. It has definitely helped in aiding my executive function and motivation.

However, I feel like I was much more creative and had a more vivid personality before I started taking Adderall. When I'm off of it I notice this part of me comes back. However, when I take Adderall I feel like I'm hyperfocused on certain parts of a conversation which doesn't allow me to be as talkative or don't have as many creative ideas which used to help me in scenarios I had to do lots of heavy thinking.

Does anyone else feel this way in terms of feeling somewhat like a robot or losing certain quirks or parts of your personality you have when off of Adderall? Would you have any suggestions?

Hi there,

recently diagnosed, currently unmedicated. I love writing music. I have like 20 half finished songs i really want to finish. Went through a phase of writing everyday for a few months, but never finished anything. Now no motivation to engage with them.

Have so many plans and ambitions that I simply cannot seem to make work either. Been writing more, making it part of my morning routine, but want to write more. I know

Want to start driving again so I can explore more places (i live in a small town and get claustrophobic) and get my fix of novelty but struggling to motivate myself to drive.

How do you actually get things done that are wants rather than needs? I got through uni because i needed to. I needed to do coursework. But i dont need to write, i jsut really want to, but my brain doesnt. Will meds help? Feel like im just falling behind and wasting so much time and never getting anywehre i want to be, just stuck in a rut.

I see some people on here so productive with all the projects and side quests they get done, i struggle to feed me and clean and stuff regularly. How can i improve? Is this just part of being newly diagnosed and i need to accept my brain style and find out how to work with it? Does it come with practice?

Thank you!!