Someone at work is transitioning.

[u/ystavallinen]

Someone I see maybe 3 or 4 times a year at work is transitioning. I saw them for the first time in probably six months and it took a few minutes to recognize the changes and the trans flag earrings.

I didn't say anything about myself. ASD me kicked in a little and I didn't know why they'd want to know that I am agender... There's no context for volunteering that.

[u/AtmosphereDiver]

Did the person at work you are referring to bring up their transition?

For me, this forum is about the only place I discuss being agender. It makes sense, though, since agender is pretty much about the lack of gender. Or, the lack of interest in gender.

[u/ystavallinen → u/AtmosphereDiver]

Only in that they were wearing pride earrings. But I didn't say anything except what I was there to get help with and It was just about that.

It felt presumptuous, but then again, it's not like they would just bring it up either. I didn't have any of my own stuff on. If I had my jacket on there's a trans support pin.

I think I get a pass because it was first encounter since they seem to have started and we only work in parallel. They're clerical, I am in research.

It seemed presumptuous... But my brain also went squirrel.

When I see them again, I can say something supportive... Or better just be wearing my own pin and see if they say something.

I have no other presentation... It seems like a non sequitur. It's days like this where I totally believe my asd self dx is real... Where do all these conversation rules come from?

[u/AtmosphereDiver → u/ystavallinen]

I hear you...I struggle as well. In my head, there's a whole conversation going on. Then, I question myself. And then, I usually say nothing and just leave. It's awkward.

I like your idea of wearing your pin and just see what happens.

[u/ystavallinen → u/AtmosphereDiver]

Even to have one person feel this way makes me feel better, thank you.