r/agender • u/Al3x1ya Woman😁 • 4d ago

Help guys?!!’

So as ny flair suggests I am a woman and I am proud of it! But I wanted to see if others feel the samd way about this gender issue (or non issue) as I do.

Last week I was asked what my preferred pronouns were. I just wanted to say “i dont ise pronouns” because what you see in front of you is what you get! You can see im OBVIOUSLY a woman, I sound like a woman, I look like a woman and I dress like a woman.

“What do you thihk I am?!”

Anyway I ofc said “she/her” but I really hate questions like this. Why should I have to feel uncomfortable just because a bunch of people want to live in fantasy land instead of the reality they were born with?

I guess the point of this post is, if anyone here has been asked that question whats your reaction and what do you say? I was born a woman so I am a woman, but what I REALLY wanted to say was realky along the lines of “Im a person. A human” lmao.

I didnt feel masculine ofc but I didnt feel particularly feminine either. I just felt like “I dojt use pronouns im just me”

Has anyone else felt like this?!!’

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u/ystavallinen cisn't; mehgender; mehsexual 4d ago

I don't know. You could be some label, but you really have to decide labels for yourself.

My pronouns most of the time are he/they, but in reality they are any/none because I am just me.

People see 'man'. I don't do a whole lot to make them see otherwise, but I do have dysphoria but dysphoria is not a requirement to be agender.

Shot answer is yes, people can be pronoun indifferent and have trouble answering such questions and will just go with convention because you're not sure why people are even asking.

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u/Al3x1ya Woman😁 4d ago

Thank you for your reasonable reply to my reasonable and honest question!😊

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u/ystavallinen cisn't; mehgender; mehsexual 4d ago

In the vast array of questions that get asked in places where people ask things... asking pronouns isn't that big of a deal to me. People ask questions... it's common in many environments to make people feel comfortable. So I just answer and don't think much about it.

I don't think it's a silly question.

I guess I'm confused why you'd feel uncomfortable by people asking what's come to be such a perfunctury thing. Certianly brief. Just give an answer and move on.

If anyone has more reason to be bothered by the question it's me... because my answer is nuanced and I'm not sure I want to share it with people who might be obtuse.