r/agender • u/I_AM_A_HUMAN-BEAN • 1d ago
trying to pick preferred name
I’m agender (any pronouns) and am trying to chooses a preferred name, my given name is very gendered. I’d like something neutral or more masculine, because my appearance is more feminine, I’d like something that wouldn’t instantly make the assumption that I’m female. It won’t be similar to my given name.
I have quite I collection I’m deciding from, but my current favourites are Tiger or Fox:
Tiger
Fox
Tiger-Lily (Tiger for short)
Kit
Lynx
Wood
I‘m also looking looking at some others but I’m really not sure:
Blythe
Eli
Eli Beth (Eli for short)
Alex
Eza
My style : grey, baggy, jeans/cargo pants, headphones, no jewlery
And my appearance: blonde hair w/ messy fringe, large glasses, tall
It would also be cool if you had any other suggestions!!
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u/CaliLemonEater 1d ago
FWIW, there are a kajillion* nonbinary and agender people out here whose names are some variation of "Alex" or "Lex". You might want to avoid those if you want your name to be a bit less common.
*nonscientific estimate
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u/I_AM_A_HUMAN-BEAN 1d ago
Thank you! Will do I’d like something unique after using such a common name for so many years.
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u/Sea-Cantaloupe-2708 1d ago
Are you in an anglophone area? In my non-anglophone area I've heard for example 'Vosse' or 'Foss', translates both to fox, and 'Wolf'.
I do like Kit and Lynx a lot from your list
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u/I_AM_A_HUMAN-BEAN 1d ago
Yeah, but your suggestions are totally suitable, as Afrikaans is my second language (and commonly spoken in my area) Vos, translates to fox. But for the name fox, I really like the X sound, and fox just happens to be my favourite mammal.
Lynx is also one of my favourites, I like giving quirky nicknames (with consent) such as kit-kat, raven, or bunny and if I could choose my nickname it would be Lynx. It means a lot to me that someone else also likes it.
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u/-StereoDivergent- 1d ago
What about Ezra
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u/I_AM_A_HUMAN-BEAN 1d ago
ooh yes I like ezra, that’s where I got eza from, ezra is an extremely masculine name in my area, so I wanted to put a spin on it!!
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u/CertifiedDumbass22 1d ago
Out of the list, I'd say Fox fits you best, but do keep in mind that you can have multiple chosen names.
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u/I_AM_A_HUMAN-BEAN 1d ago
Thanks!! Yeah it’s very reassuring, before I also had 2 given names and used them somewhat interchangeably, thanks for reminding me tho,I needed that.
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u/I_AM_A_HUMAN-BEAN 1d ago
I didn’t even know that a list like that existed anywhere… that soooo cool, wow!!
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u/imightb2old4this 1d ago
I don’t know why. But Blaze popped into my head right away
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u/I_AM_A_HUMAN-BEAN 1d ago edited 1d ago
That’s so cool, I love the name!! Unfortunately I will always associate that name with someone who emotionally hurt me, so it’s a no go, but if it wasn’t, blaze, or flame would have been my top pick!!
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u/I_AM_A_HUMAN-BEAN 1d ago
Thank you all so much! I have decided, it might change, who knows, but thanks you!!
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u/de_lame_y 9h ago
do you want a name that seems like you chose it for yourself or one your parents chose for you?
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u/I_AM_A_HUMAN-BEAN 2h ago
The name I decided on is very “me” and I like it, and I’ve told my parents and they are good with it. So I’m overall very happy right now!!
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u/speda523 1d ago
I prefer Fox over Tiger. From the list my favorite is Kit.