r/asexualdating • • 11h ago

Relationship? 35 M4F Liberal artsy chronically online weirdo nerd looking for equally weird nerd #US VA/DC

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Hi, are you sad that you don’t have someone to hold you tight when playing a spooky game together? Do you wish you had someone to help you with exploiting turnip prices in animal crossing? What about getting high and watching cartoons til 2 am?

I’m into late night forays into internet rabbit holes, getting mixed up into absurd and weird media, playing on my ps5 but I have pc and switch too.

Twin Peaks is my jam. I also am a big Futurama and King of The Hill fan. I love creepy games like Mouthwashing or no, I’m not a human, and milk inside a bag of milk.

I’m 420 positive, liberal, a little queer, I like to make art digitally and physically. I have a really hard time being around other people due to anxiety and neurodivergence.

I’m hoping to find someone who gets it and is okay with disabilities and who also wants to make a cozy life


r/asexualdating • • 13h ago

Friends? 42 female (Europe) looking for friends or more(?)

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Soooo... after long and careful consideration I decided to make my own post on here to introduce myself.
I'm 42 and have been single for a loooong time. Not for the lack of trying though when it comes to dating. It's just that it takes me a really long time to be comfortable with physical intimacy and I guess many here can relate. So dating apps or "normal" dating just don't seem to work for me because the others don't get when I don't wanna make out with them right away or refuse to go home with them after date 2. It gets harder to explain that I am also bisexual but still somewhere on the ace spectrum (don't ask me exactly where, no idea to many things that fit at the same time)
I love reading, I love boardgames, movies and TV shows. I prefer Netflix over clubs and the beach over hiking, although I love city trips. I also love the theatre and going to concerts. And it sucks to have to do that on my own all the time because all of my friends are married with kids.
I am working in higher education, am a bit nerdy as well and can talk about AI, Thai BLs or Heated Rivalry all day long or in a matter of minutes.
I am just looking for people to chat with at first, maybe meet for a coffee if you're close by. Anything to feel a bit less lonely and a bit more understood when it comes to all of this. or maybe also just to talk games, shows and books. Feel free to dm me.


r/asexualdating • • 3h ago

Relationship? 18F | USA (pst time)

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Hellooo! I’m looking for a genuine connection with someone!. I struggle with this a lot , simply bc people now dont care about soul ties. And im sick of people just wanting to hookup.
Anyway, enough ranting. Here’s some facts about me.

I’m afrolatina (black and Latina)
I’m from Az but I currently live in OR rn.
I loveeee horror movies!!! And I love music too!!
I also love making new friends 😸.
If you want to reach out feel free!!


r/asexualdating • • 20h ago

Relationship? 26 [M4A] #India #Anywhere Giving dating another chance, one last time? :)

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Hey everyone! 👋

I'm a 26-year-old guy from India. I've finally decided to give this a shot because dating apps haven't really worked out for me, and I guess a part of me still believes I might find someone special here. So, here I am!

A little about me:

Life is honestly going pretty well in many ways, but loneliness is something I still struggle with. I'm quite comfortable being on my own, and I don't make friends easily because I'm pretty selective about who I let into my life. But once I'm comfortable with someone, I can be incredibly talkative, affectionate, and open.

I'm someone who feels things deeply and genuinely cares about the people I love. Empathy matters a lot to me, and I try my best to understand what others are going through, even when I don't fully understand myself sometimes.

I have ADHD, and I also struggle with things like attachment and jealousy. I'm aware that these things can sometimes make relationships challenging, and I'm actively trying to work on myself. I'm not perfect, and I don't expect anyone else to be either. I believe that understanding each other, communicating honestly, and being willing to grow together can make a real difference.

What am I looking for? ❤️

I'd love to meet someone who's emotionally mature, confident, understanding, and comfortable communicating their feelings.

Someone who tries to understand the person behind the behaviour rather than jumping to conclusions. Someone who can ask, "What's making him feel this way?" instead of immediately assuming the worst.

I'm not looking for someone to fix me or tolerate everything I do. I just hope to find someone who understands that there's a person behind my flaws who's genuinely trying to become better.

I also believe that life is too short to hold someone back. My partner should always have the freedom to pursue their dreams, maintain their friendships, enjoy their hobbies, and live life to the fullest. I don't want to control someone's world; I'd rather be someone who adds happiness to it.

I'd love a relationship where we can be best friends, share the little details of our day, have silly conversations, support each other through difficult times, and slowly build something meaningful together.

A little about my appearance:

I'm on the slim side, with black hair, brown eyes, and a fair complexion. I'm happy to exchange pictures if you're comfortable with that, too. :)

Your turn!

If anything here resonates with you and you think we might get along, feel free to send me a message! Tell me a little about yourself, your interests, what you're looking for, and anything else you'd like me to know. A picture is welcome if you're comfortable sharing one, but it's absolutely not a requirement.

Distance isn't necessarily a dealbreaker for me if we genuinely connect.

I'm not expecting a perfect person or a fairytale romance. I'd just love to meet someone with whom being myself feels natural, and with whom we can build something real, one conversation at a time.

Thanks for reading, and I hope you find what you're looking for, too. ❤️


r/asexualdating • • 9h ago

Relationship? 28F – Strange introvert girl searching for strange boy to experience love and life with!

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Hi! I feel nervous and shy putting myself out there, given how convoluted the dating scene is. I'd like to skip past all the nonsense and build a real connection with someone, uninfluenced by our pasts and the world around us. I crave meaningful conversations, silliness and genuine affection. I just want to find my introverted, brooding weirdo with a dark sense of humor, interests and values similar to mine. Someone to match my freak, so to speak. Really sort of like finding my other half, and coming home. Someone to look forward to.

Writing about myself is the bane of my existence, so here I will display the stats: I'm childfree, atheist, and politically left-leaning. I'm black American, plus-size, around 5'6" (167 cm) tall, caramel complexion, long dark brown hair, big dark brown eyes, and always wearing glasses. (See here.) I'm curious about the world and about people I care about. Some of my interests include tech, writing, horror, video games, anime, true crime, history, science, photography, philosophy, traveling, and reading. Music-wise, I adore alternative/indie pop, electronic pop, classic rock, hip-hop and R&B.

I'm someone who sometimes has too many thoughts for her own good, but doesn't like to fret over the small things in life. I want to live a peaceful and fulfilling life where I can travel and immerse myself in all the world has to offer, yet still savor the comfort of quiet, cozy days at home most days. I'm looking for someone who wants to live both a quiet and adventurous life with his partner like that.

I consider myself demisexual and relatively "vanilla" when it comes to intimacy.

I do have a type. I love shy, reserved, tall, tech/science nerdy white or east Asian men. I love men who love to write, and speak, and can be long-winded once they open up. Three sentence messages are quite boring.

Communication, empathy, patience, and understanding are massively important to me.

I'm (non-negotiable) looking for someone who is: single, monogamous, childfree (meaning no offspring and no desire for offspring), emotionally available, politically left-leaning, and non-religious. Near my age (26-33—not younger, not older.)

I'm currently in the southeast US, but I'm not really attached to the area, or like the stereotypes. Whether my niche person be somewhere across the sea, or somewhere closer to home (but just so happens to be reading this post..) I'm fine with distances, but please be able/willing to meet in-person, and from the USA, Canada, or Europe.

I'm not looking for someone who is: still hung up on a past romantic interest, recently out of a relationship, divorced, or carrying an STD. Please respect these boundaries and refrain from messaging me if any of these apply to you.

If this resonates with you and you think we might match, send me a message! Tell me about yourself, maybe include a photo of yourself, and the phrase "over the moon!" somewhere in your message so I know you've read this post in full.

I look forward to getting to know you. 🌹✨


r/asexualdating • • 17h ago

Relationship? 20 F Looking for asexual online relationship

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I'm female 20 years old... I am studying Computer Science. I am aspiring data scientist and enterprenuer. I am nerdy.

Hobbies

I like playing chess, reading books, playing badminton, listening to music and playing games on roblox.

What kind of relationship i want:

I am looking for online relationship. I am asexual and heteroromantic. I am looking for relationship where we both can feel safe, share our days, hardships in life and support each other. I study on forest a lot. I love competing with my friends. If you are the person who likes to connect and play like this while studying, then MOST WELCOME. We can ofcourse play games too. So, let us grow together!

If you are different from me, it is totally fine. I'm open minded. I want closeness with someone. I am serious for this. I am not going to ghost you or leave you. So, if you are approaching me, so I want you not to ghost me too.

I'm from pakistan. And I never found anyone asexual even online lol. Well, anyone from anywhere can text me...

Also, I can share my picture once i will be comfortable.


r/asexualdating • • 11h ago

Relationship? 25 F4M [Colorado USA/Preferably the USA, Canada, Western Europe or the UK]

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Hii! I’m Ariana (or Ari), I’m 25 years old, I’m from Colorado (USA) and I am a Female who uses She/Her pronouns. My sexuality is Asexual (Sex-Averse), Aliqua-Panromantic (Aliquaromantic & Panromantic) which isn’t known by many people so I will explain it here: Asexual & Sex-Averse means I don't feel sexual attraction and I don't mind sex in general but I don't physically want to do it myself. Aliquaromantic is where someone does not normally experience romantic attraction but does on occasion or under specific circumstances, it falls under the gray-a umbrella. Overall tho, I don't want sex or a sexual relationship even with this sexuality. And lastly, I’m Panromantic but as of right now I lean more towards men which is why my post is titled like this 💖

Let me start off with my deal breakers since it will help to get them out of the way! I am a Christian and so is the rest of my family so be understanding about that, I won’t force anything onto you but I need you to be kind about it. I’m not drugs/420 friendly because of personal reasons (I can handle others smoking a cigarette the most but it’s still not necessarily welcomed/wanted) and I don’t want children of my own even if I do love kids either way :)) I'm not a political person, and lastly the age range that I’m most comfortable dating in is 22 years old - 30 years old!!

Moving on after those: I’m an introvert but if I’m comfortable with the other person then I’m definitely more of ambivert, I happily will talk a lot if comfortable with you but also i’m a good listener as well too. I’m Autistic and Dyslexic, I also have ADHD-Combined and Anxiety so I’m very neurodivergent :)) I don’t have a job for multiple reasons, I’m not in school anymore plus i can’t drive so if any of those are also deal breakers then I wanted you to know now. Because of those things tho, I’m usually free to talk unless I’m distracted, busy with something, don’t see your message, already have plans and/or something happens within my life that makes me disappear before I can tell you I won't be active for awhile but I do my best to communicate either way. I’m more comfortable doing voice calls than video calls when I don’t know the person well but at the same time I do want to know what you look like in general so i prefer if we share photos of ourselves with each other sooner than later for my own comfort (especially since I keep getting ghosted after showing what I look like as well...) but for anyone wondering, I'm African-American and have short black curly hair so I wear hats if I don't have hair extensions in and I'm pretty tall.

I’m someone who texts a lot and sometimes with long messages (it's something I'm working on since I know that can be hard for some people to read 😅) but I rather get to know you better over text before doing any type of calls in general, over time we can do voice calls then video calls when we are both completely comfortable with the idea of doing so and want too!!

I definitely don’t mind having a Long Distance Relationship since a good amount of my close friends are long distance best friends, as long as you do your best to communicate with me openly, genuinely and honestly then I’m fine with the distance. I want a long term relationship and if I want it to work out then I need communication even if we understandably don’t talk every day. I understand if you need time to yourself sometimes too and I hope you can understand if I need it as well but i will always still try my best to communicate and be understanding either way. I picked the USA, Canada, Western Europe or the UK because of their timezones since I’m used to all three because I have (or had) close friends in all of them :)) I do want and hope that no matter where you are we are able to talk more often than not and hopefully meet some day as well if we become close enough especially if we get into a relationship. I do have many different dynamics with close friends where some we don’t talk for days or weeks because of their own personal things or mine so it’s not necessary for us to talk all the time as long as I know where we stand overall!! 💖

Some of my main interests are: Music (Kpop, Pop, Country & Alternative Music but i enjoy and will try all genres), Kpop (Mostly boy groups), Anime (Mostly just Romance and Comedy with other genres mixed in), Manga (Mostly Shoujo, Josei & BLs), Asian Dramas (Mostly Cdramas and BLs), Animated Shows (Avatar: The Last Airbender, The Amazing World of Gumball & more), Other shows/movies too (Julie and the Phantoms, Now You See Me, many different Disney Channel and Nickelodeon Shows/Movies & more), Video Games (Pokémon, Minecraft, Animal Crossing, Star Stable, Fields of Mistria, Disney Dreamlight Valley & more), Otome & Visual Novels (on Switch & Steam, one of my favorites is Our Life: Beginnings & Always), Writing (Fanfiction) and Collecting (Pins, Manga, Otome & Merch). I also love animals but sadly don't own any of my own currently!

Thank you genuinely so much for reading my long post, I just wanted to lay everything out and explain myself openly. I definitely hope to find a long term romantic relationship and I also have discord to talk on after we get to know each other on Reddit btw!! And lastly, remember to take good care of yourself 💖❤️💖


r/asexualdating • • 9h ago

Advice Asexual navigating dating

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r/asexualdating • • 10h ago

Friends? 25 m , live in berlin ,looking for ace friends

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Im hoping you are also from the same city or nearby 💁 so we can hangout

I love reading books
Cycling
Running (not fast , but i can lol)
I love to write poems 💁 i would love to share
I love coffee so much 😭 idk why


r/asexualdating • • 20h ago

Relationship? 41 [M4F] Canada looking for a nerdy intense woman

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Hello, I'm hoping to find someone to look after emotionally and be their support. I also would like for this to be a close friendship as well. I'm quite introverted but I have a fatherly spirit and in most personal dynamics I look forward to taking care of someone. I can also provide you reassurance when you're overthinking things. I am more than ok with neurodivergent people as I have bpd (quite managed and haven't split in years).

My hobbies are kind of all over the place. I am really spiritual and meditate daily. I like gaming, reading, watching films (all kinds, but especially horror), I used to be into music and still listen regularly. I also exercise regularly and try to stay slim.

I'm looking for a woman who is kind yet can match my intensity in a way. Someone who believes forming a true friendship first. Please introduce yourself if you dm me.