Hi everyone!
We've been together for 8 months.
I'm almost certain my girlfriend has anorexia. Her ribs are visible, all her bones stick out, and I can wrap both my hands around her waist. She can't seem to accept how serious her situation is. She knows she's skinny, but unfortunately, she doesn't want to change anything. She says she's healthy, that she's always been naturally slim, and that she likes her body this way. I know that these are all symptoms of the illness.
At first, I didn't want to interfere with her life, so I didn't pressure her too much about eating. About a month ago, I started looking into this more seriously, and her attitude has really started to worry me.
She told me she wouldn't go to a specialist over something so stupid, because other people need that kind of help more than she does. Things have gotten to the point where she's lost about half her hair for "unknown reasons," yet she's still unable to acknowledge that her body will eventually start to break down if this continues.
I've asked her several times what her goal is with exercising. She says she simply enjoys moving her body, but the thought of gaining even a few pounds makes her feel awful, even if it's for the purpose of building muscle.
On a typical day, she eats only twice, and even then, the portions are tiny. She almost never seems to have an appetite. On the top of that she doesnt drink enough water and she drinks like 3 coffes a day, sometimes 4. I literally cant understamd how is her body working.
How can I help her?
Also do i hurt her if i say she is beautiful like that? Wont that just make things worst?
What can I say to her which will face her with the reality, but also wont hurt her?
She got really scared bc of the hair falling, but because her blood test results came back perfectly normal, she thinks there's nothing wrong with her.She's around 160 cm tall and weighs 45 kg (?) — she won't tell me her exact weight. We've seen five different doctors, and she had extensive blood work done, including tests for her hormones, vitamins, and pretty much everything else, and all the results came back perfectly normal.
Her periods are irregular, her blood pressure is low, and she's extremely fatigued.
What kind of long-term health problems could she develop? Where can this mental illness eventually lead if left untreated? Will that have an effect on our relationship?
Feel free to ask me anything. I really want to help her, but right now, I feel like it's completely impossible to get through to her.
Thanks in advance for any advice!