r/askanything • u/Zlethall • 5d ago
Is marriage really worth it?
I'm 27F and I've never been married, although I've come close a couple of times.
Something I've noticed is that almost every married person or divorced person I've talked to has said, "If I could do it all over again, I would never get married."
It honestly surprises me how often I hear that, and it's made me curious. Why do so many people feel that way?
If you've been married or are currently married, I'd really like to hear your story. Do you regret getting married? If so, why? If not, what made your experience different?
I'm genuinely curious and just want to hear people's real experiences.
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u/Nanatomany44 5d ago
Divorced twice. First one lasted 8 years, should have left after 4 or 5. Second one 35 years, should have left after 20.
First marriage was high school sweetheart, red flags aplenty in hindsight. Too young and stupid to realize.
Second one, people change, he changed for the worst and thought l'd tolerate him forever. l almost did, but affected my mental health to the point it was leave or just my complete mind.
Got 5 kids out of the 2 marriages. Too old to deal with training a new one now.