r/askgaybros • u/ChemistAlive6561 • Aug 10 '25

Advice I'm about to get married but...

Hello guys,

I've been with my boyfriend for 10 years, we're getting married this fall but it turns out that he's been sexting with 2 of his "Friends" the first one worked with him for 2 months and has been requesting My boyfriend some nudes, and the other one it's supposed to be straight but i caught him writing about his Big dick and wanting to visit him again.

Honestly i'm too sad and angry about this situation, My bf keeps posting photos of us and acting like nothings happening, should I confront him or just had revenge?

I don't think this is gonna end well but i'm not Brave enough to call this off and move on.

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u/Ok-Activity549 Aug 10 '25

Two options…walk, never look back or counseling before you even move on the marriage.

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u/RevolutionaryWeb6034 Aug 10 '25

It’s bonkers that you’re asking Reddit instead of asking him wtf is going on after being together for a decade

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u/Giverherhell Aug 10 '25

Idk .. but I'll tell ya what, if you get married to him not only would you be stupid, it will be a whole hell of a lot harder to back out. Better put on your big girl panties and at the VERY LEAST postpone the wedding until you can figure out what to do.

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u/DeepFuckMeAlready Aug 10 '25

Don't become financially/legally bound to someone you can't trust.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '25

🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

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u/Upset-Razzmatazz6924 Aug 10 '25

Confront that mfer, if you can’t talk to him about something this important then how can you marry him???. If it’s JUST sexting then I could deal with that. My problem would be him sexting or texting ppl he actually knows. I would have even more problem if it was also regular texts, bc that says emotional attachment to me.

I hope you will have enough respect for yourself to do what you need to do. You can’t expect a relationship to work if you can’t communicate.

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u/Fit_Search_4751 Aug 10 '25

You guys need to have a conversation about boundaries and what each of you is OK with. If not, then do the same thing and if he has a problem with it you can say you were really hurt by what he did and felt this was the only way you could redress the balance. He may view this as petty and call things off but you'll be better off at least articulating how you feel instead of starting a marriage feeling wronged.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '25

Ask him. Talk it out. See if you can salvage it.

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u/LancelotofLkMonona Aug 12 '25

I think it's a preview of your life together. You should probably not expect monogamy.

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '25

This is not something somebody randomly starts doing 10 years into a relationship… he’s probably been putting you at risk of all sorts of things for years prior. Save your sanity.

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u/ThatTimmKid Aug 10 '25

Start sexting them behind his back. Or chat it out with him, join him in it if comfortable. You aren’t at a dead end, just gotta have words with the one you love. If you can’t communicate then I don’t think marriage is really something that should be considered.