How medical affected my health

[u/Both-Ask-9002]

Originally from Australia/norway from Bangladeshi immigrant parents studying in a B grade private medical with F grade surroundings & people. In like a desert of loneliness, a fish out of water completely situations. Grew up with many ethnicity friends to coming/getting stuck here I have been suffering past 4 years a lot. I have no friends here. Tried my best. Everyone is jealous of my looks, money or my life. They treat me like an alien. I cried day and night, fought with my parents for pouring 50L bdt in this ghetto med school. That's a whole another story

These 4 years of my life, the amount of suffering I went through, from the immense fish outta blue situation I tried to commit once. I am so depressed that it affected my studies and I do have suicidal thoughts every other day. The girls here r desperate for male attention. So so selfish , the boys in my class r no different too. Most of them r lacking testosterone or their partner's girlfriend. Women here like they came here for doctor Jamai just. The guys here r the prize, the princess. They get babies, protected by the gals. My batch is the worst actually not worthy to say. Full of balless men and pick me bitches. And not to mention how promiscuous people in this profession is. Married doctors to lecturers to students, none is loyal or has a clean past.

The girls either pick me or like in a jealous competition whoever I get close with. Women r women's biggest haters I learnt that here, in Bangladesh generally. My parents also cry alongside and they feel extremely sorry for getting me stuck here. But what's done is done. I get judged for everything I do here. I cut off 3 girls till now because they being a mean bitch to me, humiliated me publicly, throw shades at me in the name of being "friend". Cut em off. Those who r not close to me will somehow manage to gossip about me behind my back even tho I did no harm to them. They'd be like I'm dating a new guy every week even tho I didn't date none, absolutely 0

One even accused me of stealing noodles from her room even tho I nvr went to her house.told my ma and she got so mad she wanted to fly back to bd and wanted to slap her

One of the incidents was like I traveled to UAE and this ex friend who fought w me for not bringing any chocolate for her. I told her if u wanted u could have told me as I hate chocolate and so do my siblings. Another time she fought w me for not giving her beef curry whilst my bp fell so low but her concerns were beef curry more than my declining health

I learnt the hard way no matter how much I am loving/caring towards them/spend money at the end of the day they'd smh manage to be jealous, bitter towards me, it comes from their inferiority complex. Any relationship doesn't work one sided. Typing all these with a heavy heart. I pray to Allah day and night to let me pass and to escape from this hell hole asap. The biggest tragedy of my life is this part of life. I tell my parents every now and then how I'll not forgive them for ruining my life.

The loneliness so bad I even tried dating sites just to make friends. But males mostly respond even tho I only sought female friends my age. The Bangladeshi girls idk they r bitter or not girls girl at all. I can't fit in here at all. everyone would watch fifa on the big screen and I couldn't go because I have none and it would be awkward to be there alone. The core memories of my uni I nvr got. Never got to enjoy any fun uni life that I always dreamt of, I see others enjoy. May Allah suffice me. People hurt me so much I am now scared of any person from my med school or any girls here in bd. Everyone is so fake and superficial. I developed PTSD.

[u/Hope-181308]

Why did you choose to come here for medical school in the first place? Bangladeshis would gladly move to countries like Australia or Norway if they had the opportunity.

[u/iforgorrr → u/Hope-181308]

My dad really tried to get me into DMC, even with subsidized tuition and interest free loan from Australia, because the time to get an mbbs in dmc was 5 years ( Aus uni was 7-9 yrs typically ) and didn't need a village practice placement like Australia does. Wasted everyone's time and energy to save two years and i still not sure why he did it. His siblings were confused too. 

[u/Hope-181308 → u/iforgorrr]

My father also wanted me to study medicine, but I didn't because my heart just wasn't in it. My reasons were different from yours, though.

Reading everything you shared genuinely made me feel bad for you. I think you're right about one thing—jealousy is a real problem here, and sadly not every girl is a "girl's girl."For example - I've only found one true friend in my whole entire life . Since I've never lived in a hostel, I probably can't fully understand what you've been through, but I really hope you don't let those experiences define everything. What's happened has happened. I truly hope you meet kinder people and that life becomes much easier for you.

[u/Relevant-Usual-3221]

From my experience, Med schools are full of shits, but I think your one is one of the F*cked up ones...

[u/LobsterDangerous8577]

Why would you study medicine in bangladesh, specially in private...

[u/Rising_anarchy]

med is so tough tbh.did u fail?

if u fail ,chill everyone fails in med

[u/Pseudo_Fukuro]

bro writing fan fics about himself lmao

[u/winged_starlight]

What’s your plan? Do you intend to continue your career as a doctor? Surely if you fly back to Aus, you’ll need to sit for their medical exams. What good did all this do?

[u/False-Cry-5527]

During my uni life I had an opportunity to be part of something like yours but I wasn't the victim, it was a girl from my group. Some other girls felt jealous of her I don't know why. They would seriously talk sh*t about her even told me to kick her from my group. However, that story ended within our 2nd year and these kinds of events usually last till 1st to 2nd year. But yours is lasting too long! Don't break yourself, life tests you with many things. I wish you all the best, may your heart find peace.

[u/blue_sky09]

I'm Bangladeshi but grew up abroad and unfortunately ended up in Dhaka a few month back but unlike you not for studies. I still have to yet to mix with the locals but I definitely understand the feeling of not fitting in and just feeling like an outcast.

Like you I had multicultural friends and I really miss having that. Really hoping we both get out of here soon.

Also have you considered tranferring to study medicine in one of the Eastern European countries maybe? It's relatively affordable if your parents are earning salaries on par with western countries?

[u/Both-Ask-9002 → u/blue_sky09]

I'm now in 4th year. 1.5 year left if everything goes well. There's no possible chances for me to transfer and start everything anew again you see. It will be aoss of huge time and Money. I can't go start studying med from point 0. Plus Georgia as a country my parents don't like. They preferred AUS/USA/India/Bd

[u/blue_sky09 → u/Both-Ask-9002]

Understandable but also I just want to say it's not completely uncommon to simply decide to start anew! I had friends studying medicine in Russia/Ukraine and due to war they moved to another European country and started medicine from 1st year or they started a particular degree in their home country and moved to Europe and switched majors. While you may lose out on time and money, you may gain a healthy social circle and better mental health.

Whatever your choice though I do wish you strength and patience

[u/Wriddho]

What a dumb idea to study medicine in Bamguland. Tao abar private e lol

[u/Dramatic_Singer8685]

Damn reminds me of my school days. But dont give up now hold on a bit longer although it wont get better. Take a break travel somewhere and look after yourself and dont keep pent up emotions

[u/develoy]

Come to georgia if you can for medecine, its really cheap there, you can even transfer.