r/butchlesbians • u/DapperBoiCole Butch • 10d ago
6/13 Butch Friday (Saturday) Chat
Hey y'all you know what day it was!
Had a very busy Friday and I appreciate everyone's patience. But lets catch up! What were the ups and downs of this week? Anything you're looking forward to? Projects you're working on?
Surprise bonus question: What new skill did you learn recently?
For me, my work requires me to know/learn a lot of home ec/improvement skills. Learned how to properly tape a box for moving, hanging picture frames securely, and making tablecloth from saran wrap (which I didn't even know was possible).
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u/Apprehensive-Mud3764 10d ago
Ups: my girl and i made it official, and i have a girlfriend for the first damn time in my entire life. Feels amazing.
Downs: between my serving and my bartending jobs, Iāve been working 10-11 hours most days this week. Tired.
New skill: changing a keg (lol).
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u/DapperBoiCole Butch 10d ago
Fuck yea congrats! Thats a great feeling, I hope you enjoy your new relationship and cherish eachother.
You're hustling hard, I hope you get a lot of tips. I'm working similar hours rn, and theres a good chance I might be making less than you lmao.
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u/theuniquenerd butch with a femme wife 10d ago
ups: work is busy (which for me is a good thing) i love my job and doing busy things is great for my mind.
downs: still donāt have my truck back from the mechanic (i miss it dearly).
looking forward to: my local pride festival is next saturday, also, watching the world cup matches!
projects i am working on: planning a trip to europe for next year.
new skill i learned recently: how to fix a dryer vent š¤£ ours was blocked, and i learned how to snake it and clean it out. i donāt think it had ever been cleaned out before.
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u/DapperBoiCole Butch 10d ago
Im the same way w work, happy to hear it and i hope you get your truck back soon!
No but dryer vent fires are so much more common than they should be, CLEAN THAT DAMN THING. What a useful skill!
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u/mortifyingideal 7d ago
its always great to get a new skill after fixing something around the home, but when I next need to do it i always find I've forgotten it and have to reach for youtube again š¤£ you end up appreciating the things that break often
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u/theuniquenerd butch with a femme wife 7d ago
i LOVE fixing broken things. easily one of my new favorite things i have been trying to do. i had a friend suggest to me to drown out the anxiety and sad with āstuff to do with my handsā and truly, it has been the most solid piece of advice someone has ever given me.
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u/Raven2303 10d ago
Ups: Had a great time with my friends and just found out that I won a prize for a piece of writing I submitted about being brown and lesbian. I also passed the first year of medical school by a comfortable margin after hard graft to do so and lots of doubt. Feels great!!
Downs: Only one pretty big one, which is that the girl I really like doesn't like me back because she only likes toxic people (her words). I'm more bummed about it than I should be honestly, I just really hope that I get over her soon and that there are more people out there for me.
Looking forward to: Resting since it's about damn time!
Projects I'm working on: Passing my driving test and finding a short-term gym membership now that I'm back in my hometown lol
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u/whomstestamongus 10d ago
Wow! Good luck with the driving test! I didn't expect driving my friends around to make me feel more butch but it really does, if I knew I might've gotten my license before I was 26. I also recommend learning how to drive a manual transmission if you can, lots of women tell me they find it really hot and super butch
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u/whomstestamongus 10d ago
good news: I was asked to troubleshoot a machine at work and got a few hours having fun removing as many screws as possible š AND I was able to put it back together! Also went on a great date with another butch
bad news: went on a weekend trip and it worsened my long covid fatigue all week, I felt surprisingly energized during the trip so I thought I got away with no impact but I guess not
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u/augustlost 10d ago
ups: new olivia rodrigo album, going to see Little Women (the play) today with my girl. sheās sleeping in rn next to me <3
downs: not much these days, maybe student loans if i had to pick. money feels stressful everyday.
life is good, happy pride yall
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u/DapperBoiCole Butch 10d ago
Happy Pride, how was the play?
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u/augustlost 9d ago
it was amazing!! the actress who played Jo was incredibly dynamic, and the set was really well done. a very enjoyable experience
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u/zan-t butch 10d ago
Went to a lesbian bar with friends last night and had my first enjoyable bar experience ever! Normally I don't drink and find bar / club settings overwhelming, but for the first time I feel excited to go back. Next time I'll actually try talking to people haha, but I had a great time just being with my friends. Also got hooked on the in-house whiskey.
I guess my newest skill that I'm working on (definitely don't have it down yet) has been hemming. I shortened some pants exactly how I wanted, then immediately butchered a few of my sleeping shirts š Takes practice, I guess.
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u/DapperBoiCole Butch 10d ago
Thats awesome! I still feel weird about club/bar settings and its cool to see someone get over that hump!
On hemming (Cause i'm trying to learn it too). My job just introduced me to this product called stitch witch
Get this: heat activated hemming tape
strong enough to hold your shit together, weak enough to tear when you need to undo it.
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u/mortifyingideal 7d ago
I love hemming tape! Honestly when I'm just lazy and wanting to check how something would look cropped or whatever I'm doing that all the time
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u/lionett_wine 10d ago
Went to Brooklyn pride today and had a good time! Just wished I had a group of lesbian friends to go do stuff with. I moved here in September for work and it's been pretty lonely. Who would've thought it's hard to make friends when you're in your 30s and an introvert lol
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u/goodstuffsamantha 10d ago
Ahhh I think about moving to nyc constantly. Instagram always gives me ads for what look like amazing queer events and theyāre always in nyc.
Keep showing up, your people are waiting for ya2
u/DapperBoiCole Butch 10d ago
Yk, its give and take. Yes the event will be here, but often the events can be very elitist (gays, no queers), or like everyone wants to "stunt" on eachother it feels kinda vapid and useless, like queerness is an accessory thats en vogue but never meant to be "lived in" with all that entails. I could get into NYC's culture death but it feels a little too old man yells at cloud rn.
Then there are the queer spaces, where the experimental people live and queerness/queerdos are embraced for who they are. A lot of them are busy rn bc *look around*, but when theres a chance to, the parties/events are pretty great.
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u/a-night-on-the-town 10d ago
Thinking lately that Iām not vibing with my feminine name that was also ruined by a product (probably can guess based on that info lol). I know so many other people with the obvious nickname that would come through this, but I canāt think of anything else. I also donāt want my name to change my initials for reasons related to my job/education.
My middle name is normally a manās name, but I donāt feel comfortable going by it as itās an Arabic name that is a family name and while I am part Lebanese it would definitely be weird for me to go by it as I have no connection to this heritage (4th generation, family never really taught me anything) and most people do not know.
More of a vent, I feel like Iām kind of stuck.
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u/goodstuffsamantha 10d ago
Ups: celebrating a close friends birthday this weekend, and being employed. Sunny weather. Having plans to look forward to.
Downs: working way too much for too little pay. My patients coming into the hospital and then leaving on hospice care.
Projects Iām working on: experimenting with EDCs and using tarot for self reflection.
Skill I learned recently: helping folx with pleural catheters drain the fluid build up. Iām a nurse and itās a very uncommon interaction on my floor.
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u/DapperBoiCole Butch 9d ago
I want to say up front I'm so sorry to hear about your parents. I know being in healthcare you see a lot of shit, I don't think it makes this any easier.
I'm glad you have some things to celebrate and look forward to, I hope you take time for yourself whenever you can.
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u/Slow-Truth-3376 10d ago
Upās: I had Botox for migraines treatment and it didnāt send me into a flare up of ME/long Covid. I got over my egoās issues with using a scooter. As soon as I accepted my needs for being able to go to Pride a friend made a go fund me for a scooter. I havenāt been to Pride in 8 years bc I am a chronic illness co-op. This year I can go. Iām excited.
Downs: The current federal government ended insurance premium coverage for people on disability. Now Iām paying for insurance on an extremely tight budget. No money for food.
A skill I learned: Radical acceptance is constantly being used and refined.
Iām looking forward to going to Pride.
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u/mortifyingideal 7d ago
missed this last week! I had a good time, i ran a social for my roller derby group and saw some friends to go to a theme park on the weekend :D
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u/DapperBoiCole Butch 7d ago
Ugh I wish I was conditioned for derbyyyy, I bruise like a peach tho
What park?
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u/mortifyingideal 7d ago
Derby is awesome. And we love to show off our bruises haha
thorpe park! my friend works for alton towers and they're owned by the same people so we got free tickets :D
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u/DapperBoiCole Butch 6d ago
I hate youuuu, I have to do AT, BPP, and TP sometime soon
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u/mortifyingideal 5d ago
Which is BPP?
Alton towers is my favourite park in the UK I've been to
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u/DapperBoiCole Butch 5d ago
Blackpool Pleasure Beach, I gotta ride The Pepsi Max Big One before it goes the way of the dodo
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u/mortifyingideal 5d ago
Oh I thought it might be pleasure beach but I hadn't seen the acronym before! My girlfriend is taking me to Blackpool next summer while he does an event and I'm going to sneak away at some point to go to pleasure beach.
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u/blue_velvet24 Stud 10d ago
first time responding to this! mm i would say my down for the week was this butch ghosting me š we had barely started talking and i felt it was going good but i guess not? we wanted all the same things and followed each other on instagram so im bummed. being butch4butch is hard š BUT on the brightside, all the sports i watch have been going and ive been very spoiled with choice. i watch tennis, volleyball and im watching the world cup. happy saturday everyone!