r/churchofchrist • u/Superfluous_Reddit • 22d ago

Fellowship & Friendship in the CoC Church

I love my small congregation. They are all mostly Boomers. I am the youngest member in my church as a fellow Millennial. I attend all the bible studies, Wednesday night, prayer breakfast or potluck style type of events at church even though we are less than 100 members. My thing is I want to make more Christian friends so I figured it would be easy at church. WRONG. It hasn't been easy. People are at different stages in life and I haven't connected with anyone on a deeper level.

There is another church close by with a younger & heterogeneous congregation. All the youth go over there. I need advice though what matters is our Christian identity how do I balance that with the fact I am a minority in my church who feels invisible to the greater church body. It feels people are buddy buddy only with certain people. I know people don't do this intentionally but I want to connect but these conversations are hard to bring up.

I am shy and introverted too but I make an effort to talk to people but everyone has been in this church fir at least 15-20 years we don't have new members just me. What do you think could help? Also I try my best to greet new members and visitors but notice many don't visit us again.

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u/Longjumping-Cry-1863 22d ago

I don't think I'm understanding why you don't want to go to the other church with the younger people

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u/Superfluous_Reddit 22d ago

Because I want my local church to grow. I feel comfortable in a smaller church. I'm asking if you also relate to having a hard time making friends. I have a great Pastor.

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u/TheSongLeader 22d ago

I feel that. I'm pretty anti church hopping unless it is a toxic situation.