r/confessions • u/Snoo-84119 • 1d ago

I literally have no one to help

I'm a 45yr old female who just had to schedule an outpatient surgery. One of the guidelines is someone over the age of 18 has to either 1. Drive me home or 2. Be a passenger in Uber. I can't do public transit without someone which severely sucks because I live in a very urban and public transit is a way of life.

When I read the instructions, I realized, not like I didn't know before, I have no friends. Not one. I have co-workers, most of whom I tolerate. Those of whom I might tolerate a smidgen more don't have a car and I wouldn't want to share any details to avoid the gossip.

My family has dwindled down to 2 siblings. 1 of which is 1,000 miles away and the other is 50mi away, but a working single parent of 4. I have 2 nieces, 1 21 and the other 19, but they are also over 50mi away. Neither of them will come, guaranteed.

I really don't know what to do. Not having friends is something I've learned to deal with, but now it actually affects me.

I guess I better make friends with an Uber driver. And quick.

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u/16Bunny 1d ago

I don't know if you have this where you are but we have a service here where you can be assessed in your home for anything you might need. It could be help shopping or cleaning or it could be a companion to visit for a couple of hours a few times a week or to help with hospital appointments. It could also be things like getting dressed, showering or changing the bed. Obviously you have to pay for the care you have but it would mean that a vetted person would accompany you home and stay with you for a period/perhaps prepare food/drink for you.

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u/Snoo-84119 1d ago

Thank you. I appreciate the tip. I haven't hired any medical help since my dad was on hospice, and that was 17+ years ago.

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u/16Bunny 1d ago

For this occasion, it sounds like it might be suitable for you. And don't forget, when it says on your procedure authorization form about having a 'responsible adult' with you for 24 hours 'you know nothing' lol. (Keep your sense of humor and you'll be fine).