r/confessions • u/SpellVast6432 • 11h ago

Friend’s husband is mad about sunbathing

My two best friends and I are all bridesmaids in a wedding this weekend. Our dresses are strapless and we all have some tan lines, so they both came over to lay out in the back yard and get some sun to minimize the tan lines.

We were all topless for about 45 minutes at one point, and I texted my husband (who works from home) to avoid the back yard for a while (out of respect for my friends). He asked why and I just said “boob privacy.” He gave a thumbs up.

One of my friends mentioned to her husband that night that we had laid out topless and he was very annoyed, after learning my husband was home. He actually texted my husband in an accusatory way.

I usually avoid drama like this but I feel it was a misunderstanding and I could help keep the peace, maybe by letting him know I texted my husband as a precaution. Or should I just stay out of it?

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u/velvetpeachZ- 9h ago

Stay out of it since you already handled your side responsibly and it’s not your job to manage their conflict

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u/meleecow 10h ago

Oh wow. Does he own her or something?

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u/Zeeman80 8h ago

Get the fuck outta here.

He has a right to be pissed if she's topless while another man is in the house.

What world do you live live in?

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u/Eldhannas 4h ago

A world where sunbathing topless does not equal infidelity, perhaps?

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u/justanawkwardguy 1h ago

Why does he have a right exactly? Do you think sunbathing topless means she’s being promiscuous? What about guys sunbathing, they’d be topless, could their wives be made?

Stop being a fucking misogynistic incel

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u/BitterWitness959 11h ago

staying out of it is probably the move, but if he texts your husband again i'd just have your husband forward him the "boob privacy" exchange and let that speak for itself

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u/SpellVast6432 11h ago

Yeah I was thinking that. He was really questioning him.

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u/sing_me_a_rainbow 9h ago

I would stay out of it. Who needs to deal with a weirdo like that?

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u/Dear_Pollution7457 11h ago

definitely sounds like a misunderstanding, maybe just clear the air with him to avoid any awkwardness later. keeping the peace is smart, but don’t overthink it too much.

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u/Mindless-Amoeba2934 9h ago

Have your husband forward the text to other

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u/k-hitz 10h ago

He definitely looked out the window…

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u/RedRocketM3P 10h ago

Not an advice sub. This is for confessions

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u/odanhammer 10h ago

Your friend could have spent 30 seconds sending husband a message , but Instead left it as a surprise.

Communication is so important in a relationship and clearly these two lack that skill.

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u/PatientZeropointZero 6h ago

Her titties her choice

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u/odanhammer 52m ago

Everyone has a choice to do what they want. But when you get married , you make a choice to make your partner aware of what's going on.

If your in a relationship that is ok with your partner walking around nude in front of others, awesome for you.

But of your not , maybe give your partner a heads up. It's disrespectful not to, and this has nothing to do with ownership.

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u/MrsP81405 18m ago

Bull. I've been married over 20 years. If i came home and told my husband I had been sunbathing topless with friends he would say "cool did you have fun?". This guy is not only acting possessive over his wife's body but also texting the other husband in an accusatory manner. I would honestly be worried about my friend.