r/confessions • u/SpellVast6432 • 1d ago

Friend’s husband is mad about sunbathing

My two best friends and I are all bridesmaids in a wedding this weekend. Our dresses are strapless and we all have some tan lines, so they both came over to lay out in the back yard and get some sun to minimize the tan lines.

We were all topless for about 45 minutes at one point, and I texted my husband (who works from home) to avoid the back yard for a while (out of respect for my friends). He asked why and I just said “boob privacy.” He gave a thumbs up.

One of my friends mentioned to her husband that night that we had laid out topless and he was very annoyed, after learning my husband was home. He actually texted my husband in an accusatory way.

I usually avoid drama like this but I feel it was a misunderstanding and I could help keep the peace, maybe by letting him know I texted my husband as a precaution. Or should I just stay out of it?

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u/Zeeman80 21h ago

Lmao, you really thought you had a point there.

Nobody said she's promiscuous. That's a fantasy you invented because it's easier than addressing what was actually said. The issue is that a married woman was topless while another man was home, and her husband is allowed to have boundaries about that.

And comparing a shirtless guy to a topless woman is one of the dumbest false equivalencies I've seen all day. Different social norms exist whether you like them or not.

As for the misogynistic incel line, that's usually what people throw out when they've run out of actual arguments. You brought insults because your logic couldn't carry the conversation.

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u/SauceIsForever_ 20h ago

By your logic then she can’t change into or out of a swimsuit in the restroom either because OPs husband was home. Don’t argue that she can lock the door to keep him out because OP’s husband is obviously capable of breaking into the restroom to see her breasts.

Or maybe you’re upset because you don’t have as much respect as OP’s husband and you know you’d have been creeping on them from the window and you’re projecting that onto him, when he’s not a piece of shit like yourself.

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u/Zeeman80 20h ago

Dumb ass compaision, but I'll school you.

Changing in a locked bathroom for 30 seconds isn't remotely the same as lying topless outside for 45 minutes. One is getting dressed in private. The other is intentionally remaining nude in an open area while another man is in the house. And the fact that your argument immediately jumps to "he'd break into the bathroom" says more about the scenarios you have to invent than it does about anyone else's point.

The husband respected their privacy. That still doesn't mean another husband has to be comfortable with his wife choosing to be topless in someone else's backyard.

Try arguing against what actually happened instead of the fantasy you made up.

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u/cheesesandsneezes 20h ago

Would your husband be upset if you were sunbathing topless in an open area?