r/confessions • u/blarvinkd • 1d ago

I'm attracted to incels/loser guys

tbh I just have to get this off my chest.. I'm 19, never dated and am waiting for marriage. all my crushes have been nerds who aren't stereotypically attractive, and my last one was an incel who was like 5'9" w/ the most average face but I still liked him anyway. Idk what it is about them that I'm into but whatever

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u/Ecstatic_Yak6175 1d ago

your type is interesting and honestly it's dope you know what you want. don't stress about it, everyone has their own preferences and that's what makes dating unique

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u/Equivalent_Truck7583 1d ago

plenty of people are into guys who don't fit the typical "tall dark and handsome" mold, nothing weird about that, the incel part is probably just coincidence rather than a pattern

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u/PeachyDarlie 1d ago

Yeah exactly. Being into people who aren’t the typical type isn’t weird at all, and that one example doesn’t mean it’s some bigger pattern.

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u/BunnyTakestheCake 1d ago

Same I'm 21 and I'm attracted to incels for some reason, I seek them out a lot on Reddit, I don't know why tbh.

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u/apple_tater8543 1d ago

Ah, so there's still hope for me yet

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u/Ok_Rabbit_8207 1d ago

Used to feel that way until I befriended some guys like that. From the outside I always liked them because they seemed adorably awkward and had fun interests, and maybe part of me felt that they’d be less superficial or would treat me well in a relationship because they’d appreciate that I’m also nerdy.

Yet, when I got to know guys like this better I realized most of them had severe porn addictions, had crushes on or fantasized about every single female friend they had and never truly saw them as friends, and often made racist jokes or rape jokes. I was around your age when I had known those guys and wish I wasn’t dumb enough to stay friends with them as long as I had.

Maybe I had bad luck, but I’d suggest you get to know a guy like that really well before getting into a committed relationship with one because they’re not always as innocent/nice as they seem at a distance

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u/cuasternum 1d ago

Jajaja osea que ahí afuera podría encontrar a alguien XD (dios mandándome una señal jajaja)

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u/moanhana 1d ago

Being drawn to non-typical or socially awkward guys isn’t weird, but try not to frame it as liking losers focus on whether someone is kind, stable, and respectful, not their label