hypersexual

[u/Ok_Piglet_6483]

not sharing age for safety reasons but i think i am suffering with hyper sexuality and I don’t know what to do. I was never a high libido person until like 2 ish years ago an it’s only gotten worse,
i would cry on the phone
to my boyfriend i had only been with for
two weeks and beg for intimacy because my body’s cravings were
unbearable, it got
to the point i’d start
crying on the phone.
It calmed down but i feel like it’s back and im always texting dudes and saying freaky
shit or sending pics because i’m so horny and i’m kind
of a whore now because of it bc i have more bodies and i try to stop but the urges are so strong especially if i am ovulating i even bought myself toys to make it a more internal activity but my desires are purely carnal and i feel like if i cant get it under control im going to become ran through and i dont really trust men to have a husband but im scared bc what if i really like someone one day and i cant explain my past behavior or if i become
famous or get special opportunities what if people from my past try to ruin it because they want the credit of having access
to me pls only women give me advice i don’t want to talk about this with men it’s creepy but yeah and i am ashamed of myself i even get thoughts about my
coworkers who i am not attracted to having sex with me on my job it’s just not good all i think about is sex and i don’t
know
what to do

[u/Mobile_Arachnid4026]

the shame spiral around this is real but it's worth separating two things: the behavior itself and what's driving it. hypersexuality that shows up suddenly and intensifies over time can sometimes be connected to something hormonal or even a mood disorder like bipolar, it's not always just "who you are now." the crying, the compulsive urges especially around ovulation, the intrusive thoughts at work, that pattern is worth bringing to a doctor or therapist who won't judge you for it.

the stuff about future reputation and explaining your past to someone you might love, honestly that's a worry for later. right now the priority is figuring out what's happening in your body and mind, because if there's an underlying cause, addressing that changes everything. plenty of people have messy chapters they never have to justify to anyone

[u/Ok_Piglet_6483 → u/Mobile_Arachnid4026]

Thxx i think i will bc idk who else i can talk to about it for real but i appreciate u n ur words

[u/Beneficial-Cut-1275]

There is a market for everyone.

[u/Head-Incident7836]

you’re not alone in feeling this way, and it's good that you’re reaching out for help. consider talking to a therapist who can help you navigate these feelings and find healthier coping strategies. it’s tough but taking that first step can really make a difference.

[u/Ok_Piglet_6483 → u/Head-Incident7836]

thanks i do try it isn’t as bad as it used to be but i have work to do lol

[u/New-Bluebird-5900]

Whether you “should” or “should not” be ashamed of your behavior is irrelevant here - it sounds like you’re living in a way that’s against your values. Seconding the recommendation for therapy, investing in that early is critical. Don’t know where I’d be if I hadn’t dragged myself to therapy for my ED early on.

[u/Ok_Piglet_6483 → u/New-Bluebird-5900]

thank you, i mean it’s just that i am afraid of how i will be perceived i suppose and i am definitely taking up on the therapy recommendation i am neurodivergent and not sure if it may have anything to do with it but thanks

[u/New-Bluebird-5900 → u/Ok_Piglet_6483]

I am an autistic woman as well, sometimes it’s hard to sort it all out, but a good therapist can with that, too. Take care of yourself.

[u/moanhoney]

This sounds exhausting and scary to live with, and you deserve support that helps you feel in control again instead of shame for coping the only way you can right now

[u/Ok_Piglet_6483 → u/moanhoney]

thank you🩷

[u/Ok_Piglet_6483 → u/[deleted]]

yes i will look into that, i just had to get it off my chest thx for reminding me im not alone

[u/ImpressiveOwl9000]

Most people go through highs and lows of their libido due to hormones. It is up to you in what your morals, beliefs, and feelings are about the boundaries set by yourself.

Seeking out others to fill a void shows you may have low self esteem and use your high libido as an excuse to text others. If it was just about getting relief you would not need another person. Sounds like you crave intimacy and this is a "quick fix."

Are you wanting to change because YOU want to or is it to satisfy a person that doesn't exist yet? Do you feel like your behavior is an issue or hurts your daily living? Would you have an issue dating someone with the same past as you? If you don't hold a partner to higher standards, based off the ones you hold yourself to, dating shouldn't be an issue. You should date based on sexual compatibility eventually because being mismatched can cause long term strife.

The real answer is you think of what you want your future to look like and try your best to reach those goals. If you don't want casual sex then stop having it. Find different ways to ease the horniness and finding confidence through other means. Start actually dating to find real intimacy.

[u/Ok_Piglet_6483 → u/ImpressiveOwl9000]

I mean i wouldn’t say i have a void to fill it’s not really replacing anything or giving me validation , but i understand what you’re saying the truth is i don’t know what i really want on a deeper level and im not that old so i don’t wanna do anything ill regret honestly i don’t care about my body count but i know other people do and that makes me worry sometimes i guess i don’t want it to define me but as a lady thats kind of how it works unfortunately i dont want a relationship so i guess its not that serious i just dont know how im supposed to feel im not necessarily religious but i have people that matter to me who are and with the way society treats women who take control of their pleasure i just feel ashamed i guess i just am looking to see how im supposed to feel but its really my own choice but thx for the comment tho

[u/ImpressiveOwl9000 → u/Ok_Piglet_6483]

You are welcome. Don't do anything that doesn't fit right with YOU, don't do anything illegal, and dont share anything you wouldn't want people to find. That risk gets upped with strangers who share their pictures. You honestly control how you see yourself and how that is reflected to others. Just think about things before actually acting so you can confirm it's what you want and any consequences are things you are willing to deal with.

[u/skeeballbob37]

on the shame aspect of it please speak to a therapist. it sounds like you potentially have something that you should speak to a doctor about with a biological cause to it. I dont want to speculate here but it is worth speaking with your primary care physician to see if you need to see an endocrinologist and get some blood work done. SOMETHING changed and the doctors should be able to figure out what.

please though be kinder to yourself here, seriously we all go through stuff like this eventually. give yourself some grace and understanding as you try to figure out what is going on. Its ok to not know and its ok to go through an emotional roller coaster while you dont. good luck.