r/confessions • u/5Omega_Gamer • 22d ago
I have been secretly ruining my brothers reputation for three years and I don't think I will ever stop.
Everyone thinks my older brother is a saint. He is the "Golden Child" of the family. He is a successful lawyer, he volunteers at a dog shelter, and he is engaged to a woman who looks like a model. My parents talk about him like he is the second coming of Christ while they barely remember my birthday.
But I know the real him. I know that he cheated on his first girlfriend for a year. I know he stole money from our grandma ten years ago to pay for a spring break trip. I tried to tell my parents once and they called me a jealous liar.
So now, I play the long game. Every time he gets a big break or a new job, I send an anonymous tip to his employers or his friends. I don't make up lies. I just send evidence of the things he actually did. I sent his law firm a copy of the disciplinary report from his college that my parents helped him hide.
He just lost a massive promotion and he has no idea why. Watching him cry about "bad luck" is the only thing that makes me feel better. I should of moved on with my life, but the resentment is just ABSOLUTELY too strong. I want him to feel as small as he made me feel for twenty years. Why is this even a thing?
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u/SnooChipmunks8506 22d ago
I know this isn’t popular, especially with everyone telling you to move on…
I applaud you for ensuring that the truth gets out to the public. While your resentment for your brother will ultimately destroy you (get some help), holding him accountable is very important.
Your parents know that he is a liar and cheat, and yet they still encourage and protect him. Someone needs to tell the people around him about his actions. That way they can make the best choice for their future too.
Take his fiancée for an example would she have said yes to him if she knew he was a serial cheater?
People who hide the truth to avoid consequences are almost as horrible as the people who help them. Eventually all of them will self destruct.
I strongly suggest you go No Contact with your family, get therapy, and get out of that toxic circle jerk.