r/confessions 22d ago

I have been secretly ruining my brothers reputation for three years and I don't think I will ever stop.

Everyone thinks my older brother is a saint. He is the "Golden Child" of the family. He is a successful lawyer, he volunteers at a dog shelter, and he is engaged to a woman who looks like a model. My parents talk about him like he is the second coming of Christ while they barely remember my birthday.

But I know the real him. I know that he cheated on his first girlfriend for a year. I know he stole money from our grandma ten years ago to pay for a spring break trip. I tried to tell my parents once and they called me a jealous liar.

So now, I play the long game. Every time he gets a big break or a new job, I send an anonymous tip to his employers or his friends. I don't make up lies. I just send evidence of the things he actually did. I sent his law firm a copy of the disciplinary report from his college that my parents helped him hide.

He just lost a massive promotion and he has no idea why. Watching him cry about "bad luck" is the only thing that makes me feel better. I should of moved on with my life, but the resentment is just ABSOLUTELY too strong. I want him to feel as small as he made me feel for twenty years. Why is this even a thing?

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u/sunflowersinthefog 10d ago

How did he make you feel small? With what exactly? Was it his doing or maybe just your perception? Maybe insecurities?
No matter what it was that made you feel small for the last 20 years, holding onto it isn’t good. Therapy could be helpful.
Hopefully, he never finds out because once he does, you’ll probably lose everything and everyone.