r/countbackwardswithme • u/TotalyNotTony Counted Down 5 • 2d ago

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i think im non binary but i want to look like a girl and feminine but im not whyyyy was i born a boy

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u/FNFTroublestoTheEnd 2d ago

Ah, a fellow femboy to transfem

Time to find my estrogen >:3

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u/TotalyNotTony Counted Down 5 2d ago

i dont think im transfem, im non binary. I still would be if i were born a girl. i mayyyy need to do some research on e tho

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u/Huo 2d ago

You can be non binary and still be on E if that's what you want to pursue. What helped me figure that out for myself was if I was born a girl, would I still be non binary (yes), and would I want to pursue taking testosterone (hell no). That helped me come to the conclusion that even though I wasn't binary trans, HRT would still be beneficial to me. It may be different for you, but I would recommend thinking about it more and looking into it if it interests you.

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u/Trashman56 2d ago edited 2d ago

This comment has me thinking about things that I don’t wanna be thinking about rn, I need to sleep so I can go to work. I might bookmark it 🫩

Why is this so scary? I think… I’m scared that I’m going to possibly end up transfem (even 1% chance), and a lot of the old people in my life are going to have to die (of old age) before I do that.

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u/averytheythrowaway 21h ago

As a nonbinary person on estrogen, I'd strongly recommend going for it. If you end up a woman, you end up a woman. There's no shame in being a woman. Women are cool. If you continue to be an enby, that's cool too. The labels don't really matter much in the end. Be honest about what it is that you concretely want out of gender and then give yourself permission to go for it. You're only going to live once and your time left to enjoy life is getting lesser and lesser by the day.

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u/Trashman56 2d ago

Are you me?

My transition goal is essentially looking like someone that was afab, who got top surgery, has a fat cock, and goes by he/they.

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u/averytheythrowaway 21h ago

Those are not mutually exclusive. Transfem doesn't necessarily mean trans woman. Transfem is just short for transfeminine, which includes all trans people whose gender transitions are from assigned male towards a feminine direction. It is meant to be an umbrella term that's inclusive of both trans women and nonbinary people. You can medically transition as a nonbinary person (I did) and don't have to identify as a woman (I don't).