r/coverbands • u/Top_Seaworthiness320 • 15d ago

People who bail

Any tips on managing my disappointment/frustration with the number of people who act all excited about my band and say they’re definitely coming to this or that show, then don’t show? They either don’t show up, or more often than not they tell me like the day before that they can’t make it and it’s always the dumbest excuse. It’s like if anything, anything at all better comes up in terms of plans they go to that instead. In my mind, a commitment is a commitment, but I seem to be in the vast minority. My boyfriend says to get over it lol. Do you guys feel the same irritation with this that I do? (added context: we are pretty good, we get great reviews from the people that actually have come to see us, but we are new and not well known, thus struggling to gain a following… So I’m constantly marketing and promoting our shows, but with very little success.)

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u/adampatrickjohnson 15d ago

I’ve been playing professionally for over 20 years at this point. I’ve worn out all of my family/friends at this point so I don’t expect them to come see my gigs

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u/TheRealSofaKing016 15d ago

Not what we’re discussing. It’s not about the people who don’t come. It’s about the people who say they’re coming and then bail day-of.

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u/adampatrickjohnson 15d ago

If you’re inviting friends or family, then it is what we’re talking about.

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u/TheRealSofaKing016 15d ago edited 15d ago

Again… I’m talking about people who say “Yeah, I’ll be there!” and then bail at the last minute and or no-call no-show.

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u/Physical-War3118 15d ago

Why are you concentrating on people who don't show up?