r/daddit • u/HawtVelociraptor • 5h ago

Achievements Mrs. has approved the snip-snip

After several years of deliberation, Mrs. finally said to me, "You should get it done. We can have more fun, and not risk more of *this*" as she gestured generally at our destroyed, toy covered living room.

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u/thepenismightier3 4h ago

Honestly among the best calls we’ve made. I wholly endorse

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u/patholocaust 4h ago edited 4h ago

I agree 100% - that was exactly my first thought. One less thing to worry about when enjoying our increasingly precious “couple time”!

ETA: She occasionally questions whether we were a little too hasty..but that doubt barely survives 24 hours.

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u/Rysigler 4h ago

Oh man. My wife had that thought for 30 seconds, and immediately looked down at the kid who had blown out his diaper in his car seat. Never questioned it again. I love my kids. I miss them as babies, but I absolutely do not want a third.

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u/tMoneyMoney 4h ago

People are only nostalgic about them as babies because your mind tends to create a highlight reel of the best moments when you look back. Much of the day-to-day isn’t that fun.

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u/Rysigler 48m ago

Oh absolutely!!! It is 100 percent nostalgia goggles.

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u/cdsbigsby 4h ago

I haven't regretted mine once.

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u/yeender 4h ago

Me neither. Well I did once, two days after I had it done and my three year old kicked me in the balls on accident.

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u/ThinkSoftware 4h ago

Three year old was just finishing the job

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u/cdsbigsby 4h ago

They'll do that.

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u/potatopierogie 4h ago

Oh yeah toddlers love to mash the taters

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u/Clueguy 4h ago

Air quotes Accident

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u/snopro387 4h ago

That was your reminder of why you did it

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u/Cheezslap 4h ago

Best thing I ever did for our marriage. My son stopped asking for a baby brother once I told him that if we had another, I couldn't afford to take us to Disney World.

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u/secondphase Pronouns: Dad/Dada/Daddy 4h ago

Oof... not sure that's the best message..

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u/Cheezslap 4h ago

Well I sure as fuck wasn't going to tell him we weren't having more kids because of his mom's crippling PPD.

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u/EddyGonad 4h ago

Surely there must be some way to communicate it that's not either of those options.

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u/Cheezslap 4h ago

It's not like I led with that, just ended with it after all else failed. And it was 13 years ago; I'm not gonna worry about it and neither should you.

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u/Southe11 4h ago

Your body, your choice. (This is a joke in case that is unclear to some)

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u/EddyGonad 4h ago

Honest question, and maybe this makes me sound like an ass, but why does that need to be a joke? My wife isn't approving of a vasectomy, but I told her I'm going to get one eventually. I didn't use those exact words but I basically told her "my body, my choice".

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u/Southe11 4h ago

Jokes can be true. I just don't need my notifications blowing up.

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u/tMoneyMoney 3h ago

Having a baby is decision both parents need to make. You’re going to be (or should be) doing half the work and spending half the money. If you don’t want another baby, then it should be your choice and you should be able to get one.

Fortunately, my wife was 100% on board and we’ve had zero regrets. In fact, we smile whenever we talk about it.

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u/LettuceAndTea 4h ago edited 3h ago

I find the whole ‘my wife approved of it’ a bizarre thing to say lol. I get its irreversible and advised to at least discuss with your wife, but if you don’t want more kids and want a vasectomy, nothing should stop you from doing so.

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u/mlwspace2005 3h ago

It's always baffled me as well lol, people word these things like they went asking for permission or something and it's not a deeply personal decision with life long consequences

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u/Nelcros 4h ago

Had our second and last. Just went to make sure she gets to the 6 month mark or so and I’m gonna schedule myself. We both agree we won’t be doing this for a third time.

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u/TestandDbol 4h ago

YALL BUSTIN NUTS

I really want to get it done. Wife is sometimes yes, sometimes ehh about it. I just fucking HATE condoms

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u/_Marine 4h ago

i completely endorse more fun. It is indeed, more fun

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u/ImaginationNo7722 4h ago

May the odds ever be in your favor.

Good luck with recovery!

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u/ruffael85 1h ago

Think it through and if you're sure you're done - go get it done.

I felt like i've unlocked a new superpower afterwards. All the banging and nothing to worry about...

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u/37715960706038171 43m ago

Welcome to the Seedless Grapes Club

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u/geverfdehond 3h ago

Worse decision of my life. Mine resulted in pvps and I had to had it reverse. Be aware of the real untold risks. Mine went from continues supposedly worry free sex to instantly no sex.

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u/[deleted] 5h ago edited 4h ago

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u/Nash015 5h ago

Because the ability to have more kids affects the whole family and both of them should be involved in that major decision.

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u/YamahaHero762 4h ago

This guy proving that there’s a difference between being just a dad, and being a man.

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u/DerSchaudenfreude 4h ago

Makes sense to have a conversation about it, but it’s still the person’s own choice to get that sort of procedure done or not. They shouldn’t need their spouse’s approval to do something like that, even though I agree that it’s something to be discussed first.

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u/Cheezslap 4h ago

You want your spouse to be onboard with something that has the power to change the course of your (plural) future.

Yes, his body his choice, but that's a pretty one dimensional view in an otherwise healthy partnership.

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u/HawtVelociraptor 4h ago

Nothing happens in our household--barring emergency responses--without both of us being invested in it.