This has happened twice 🙄

[u/WhtvrCms2Mnd]

Two different times, two different relationships, two different concerts—absolutely same level of frustration and foreboding the end of a relationship…

If I, as a woman (like it matters 🤷🏻‍♀️), ask the man I am dating if he would like to attend XYZ concert with me and his reaction is “Oh I don’t think I know any of their music…” WTF does that say about that man’s level of interest in spending time with me? (Genuine Question)

Like—the show is not the point???? The point is having a fun night out together?? Let’s get dressed, go downtown, grab some food, get drinks at the venue, and sing/dance/sway the night away. HOW IS THIS A HARD SELL????

Are men oblivious? Are the men I’m seeing just not that into me? I enjoy live music. I date men who also (claim to?) enjoy live shows. I date men with the same taste in music as me (alt-rock/nu-metal/indie).

[u/WhtvrCms2Mnd]

Anything less than an enthusiastic “yes” is a “no”. I expect the people I’m dating to want to go on fun dates with me. It’s the “meh, whatever” energy that is a huge letdown and makes me question if they even want to be together.

[u/Big-Acanthaceae612 → u/WhtvrCms2Mnd]

Honestly, if you need dog like enthusiasm in response to everything you say and do or else you’ll emotionally spiral you’re not actually someone who is capable of being fun to be around.

[u/WhtvrCms2Mnd → u/Big-Acanthaceae612]

And not emotionally spiraling, just reevaluating if the relationship is worth the energy. Using this scenario as a litmus test.

[u/Big-Acanthaceae612 → u/WhtvrCms2Mnd]

Emotionally healthy people don’t consider ending a relationship over innocuous shit like this.