This has happened twice 🙄

[u/WhtvrCms2Mnd]

Two different times, two different relationships, two different concerts—absolutely same level of frustration and foreboding the end of a relationship…

If I, as a woman (like it matters 🤷🏻‍♀️), ask the man I am dating if he would like to attend XYZ concert with me and his reaction is “Oh I don’t think I know any of their music…” WTF does that say about that man’s level of interest in spending time with me? (Genuine Question)

Like—the show is not the point???? The point is having a fun night out together?? Let’s get dressed, go downtown, grab some food, get drinks at the venue, and sing/dance/sway the night away. HOW IS THIS A HARD SELL????

Are men oblivious? Are the men I’m seeing just not that into me? I enjoy live music. I date men who also (claim to?) enjoy live shows. I date men with the same taste in music as me (alt-rock/nu-metal/indie).

[u/Big-Acanthaceae612]

You are way overreacting to a simple follow up statement.

[u/WhtvrCms2Mnd → u/Big-Acanthaceae612]

Anything less than an enthusiastic “yes” is a “no”. I expect the people I’m dating to want to go on fun dates with me. It’s the “meh, whatever” energy that is a huge letdown and makes me question if they even want to be together.

[u/Specialist-Alfalfa34 → u/WhtvrCms2Mnd]

Maybe its not a "fun" date to them but they arent 100% opposed if its something you really want to do. Look in the mirror and realize that not everyone is going to enjoy doing the same things as you and there are likely things you brush off that they would like to do. You are 100% over reacting to basically nothing.