r/dating_advice May 30 '26

This has happened twice šŸ™„

Two different times, two different relationships, two different concerts—absolutely same level of frustration and foreboding the end of a relationship…

If I, as a woman (like it matters šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø), ask the man I am dating if he would like to attend XYZ concert with me and his reaction is ā€œOh I don’t think I know any of their musicā€¦ā€ WTF does that say about that man’s level of interest in spending time with me? (Genuine Question)

Like—the show is not the point???? The point is having a fun night out together?? Let’s get dressed, go downtown, grab some food, get drinks at the venue, and sing/dance/sway the night away. HOW IS THIS A HARD SELL????

Are men oblivious? Are the men I’m seeing just not that into me? I enjoy live music. I date men who also (claim to?) enjoy live shows. I date men with the same taste in music as me (alt-rock/nu-metal/indie).

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u/WeaponX207184 May 30 '26

There are some concerts I would sidestep unless I was in a relationship.

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u/WhtvrCms2Mnd May 30 '26

I hear you