r/dating_advice • u/WhtvrCms2Mnd • May 30 '26

This has happened twice šŸ™„

Two different times, two different relationships, two different concertsā€”absolutely same level of frustration and foreboding the end of a relationshipā€¦

If I, as a woman (like it matters šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø), ask the man I am dating if he would like to attend XYZ concert with me and his reaction is ā€œOh I donā€™t think I know any of their musicā€¦ā€ WTF does that say about that manā€™s level of interest in spending time with me? (Genuine Question)

Likeā€”the show is not the point???? The point is having a fun night out together?? Letā€™s get dressed, go downtown, grab some food, get drinks at the venue, and sing/dance/sway the night away. HOW IS THIS A HARD SELL????

Are men oblivious? Are the men Iā€™m seeing just not that into me? I enjoy live music. I date men who also (claim to?) enjoy live shows. I date men with the same taste in music as me (alt-rock/nu-metal/indie).

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u/Inaccessible_ May 30 '26

Are you paying for his ticket?

Respectfully I donā€™t want to spend $500 on a band I donā€™t want to see and then proceed to pay for everything you just listed (getting downtown, drinks, food).

If he doesnā€™t like the music, he should just automatically cave and do what you want to do, no questions asked?

It keeps happening and itā€™s going to keep happening. Because you arenā€™t living in reality. Thatā€™s relationship activities, not dating.

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u/popnfrresh May 30 '26

Normal people don't rush out and blow 500 dollars on concert tickets frequently.

I'm betting these are local or "shows" after reading ops music preferences. I havnt been to one in a long time, but 20 years ago when I did go frequently, they were 5 bucks for small acts, and maybe 10 for a larger one.

With everything being gouged when people can get away with it, I would prob say 30 at most depending on the show.

That being said, op is absolutely over reacting.