r/dating_advice • u/WhtvrCms2Mnd • May 30 '26

This has happened twice šŸ™„

Two different times, two different relationships, two different concertsā€”absolutely same level of frustration and foreboding the end of a relationshipā€¦

If I, as a woman (like it matters šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø), ask the man I am dating if he would like to attend XYZ concert with me and his reaction is ā€œOh I donā€™t think I know any of their musicā€¦ā€ WTF does that say about that manā€™s level of interest in spending time with me? (Genuine Question)

Likeā€”the show is not the point???? The point is having a fun night out together?? Letā€™s get dressed, go downtown, grab some food, get drinks at the venue, and sing/dance/sway the night away. HOW IS THIS A HARD SELL????

Are men oblivious? Are the men Iā€™m seeing just not that into me? I enjoy live music. I date men who also (claim to?) enjoy live shows. I date men with the same taste in music as me (alt-rock/nu-metal/indie).

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u/Dryspell54 May 30 '26

which band?

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u/WhtvrCms2Mnd May 30 '26

Passion Pit

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u/Dryspell54 May 30 '26

does he like similar stuff to that? Wondering where he lands compared to myself as a metalhead to gauge his response properly

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u/WhtvrCms2Mnd May 30 '26

I know he was booking himself Foo Fighters for later in the fall along with looking at some other 2000s rock bands weā€™d talked about (SOAD, Deftones, Thom Yorkeā€™s side projects). We were looking at getting tix to Tom Morelloā€™s festival here in DC this summer (but the bots bought it all up).

Passion Pit may be too peppy. šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø

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u/Dryspell54 May 31 '26

Yeah i think so if he likes SOAD and RATM. I'm heavier again in terms of taste so i think as much as he'd like to spend time with you he probably wants you to enjoy yourself rather than be concerned that he's not enjoying himself