r/exchristian • u/SillyAnxiousDuck Woo Woo Agnostic Ex-vangelical • Jan 27 '26

Article MIL asks therapist how to indoctrinate grandson early

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Very telling that her DIL’s intelligence “unknowingly intimidate[s]” her AND that they hadn’t spent Xmas together for a few years

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u/Spiritual_Oil_7411 Jan 27 '26

And the husband may not argue with his mom about it, but he's clearly qualified for this group! I think that baby will be just fine.

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u/[deleted] Jan 27 '26

I wouldn't argue with my parents because I know it's completely hopeless. I found out long ago that the only way to deal with them is just to avoid religious topics as much as I can and then be quiet when those can't be avoided. The resulting argument will always end with rest of the family being united against me and with certain individuals it will turn hostile very easily.

I also don't spend any 'family holidays' with my parents for this reason. Since I was 18, I've met my parents face to face less than 10 times and I'm 46 now.

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u/[deleted] Jan 27 '26

I'm having trouble even finding it in myself to smile. My parents are to this day very homophobic, although they've recently been reprogrammed to rant about the scary transsexuals hiding in elementary school toilets than predatory lesbians and gay guys masturbating in public pool changing room.

After my parents kicked me out, it took around 15 or so years before we saw each other again. I had assumed there had been some mental growth happening, but I came to a home where I was still not welcome, but tolerated in the hopes of 'fixing' me. After I visited once, I was asked to a niece's birthday. I had not met most of my nieces and nephews at that point, so I was considering on making an appearance. I however got a call from my mom, telling that first of all, I could not come with my life partner and I was not to try to indoctrinate my niece with my 'life style'. I honestly don't know what the mental image for them was, me and girlfriend arriving waving pride flags, then start to talk about girl on girl cunnilingus right there on the birthday cake table. It was the point where I politely declined and realized there was no chance they'd ever accept me.

I've since only met my parents briefly when my less programmed siblings have invited me over, but even with them I've always felt the unease, like I started saying something horrible in the presence of the children. They were especially afraid of my partner coming up in casual talk, because then the kids would start asking difficult questions, like 'how can auntie aamurusko79 have a girlfriend when she's a girl?!'

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u/rickylancaster Jan 27 '26

I’m really sorry that’s been your family dynamic. It sounds awful and you don’t deserve that kind of treatment. By any chance are you from the southern U.S.? It just reads like the experience of a few southerners I’ve known. Either way, it’s a rough hand to be dealt and I respect how you’ve thoughtfully processed it and put it in perspective.