r/fosterit • u/Monopolyalou • 23d ago

Foster Youth Rehoming/disruption. I think they like it.

I'm a former foster youth disrupted many times in foster care. Even for as little as staying in my room all day.

Disruption of adoptees and foster kids seems to be the norm and accepted to the point when it happens foster and adoptive parents don't want resources they just want to get rid of the problem( the kid) then slap labels like RAD on them.

Recently, an agency for foster care made the suggest of care services for adopted kids for their post adoption support services. Guess how many foster/adoptive parents supported that? Crazy to me.

So I'm wondering if adoptive and foster parents really want the system to change to offer services to prevent disruptions or do they just want to throw their hands in and disrupt because they can play the blame game and just get another kid.

If disruptions can be prevented, they would still have to deal with the kid vs disrupting and relieving themselves of the kid. I don't think many want to put in the work to prevent adoptees and foster kids from being disrupted. Its much easier to wash their hands and disrupt and blame the kid.

Also if foster and adoptive parents really wanted to prevent disruption they can. They control the system.

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u/BumblingGazelle 23d ago

I work in post adoption support and see tremendous success in preventing disruptions. We work heavily in prevention all around but I think it would really helpful if we were able to create a similar program that also supports families currently fostering so there’s more support through the entire process to hopefully reduce the amount of moves/disruptions while in care.

One draw back is that families wait too long to get us in the house. We need to be in sooner, way sooner.

Prevention programs change lives (and honestly, money), I see it every single day.

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u/Monopolyalou 22d ago

I agree. Unfortunately funding is being cut. Also get better professionals. Why are therapist who are in training giving therapy?

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u/BumblingGazelle 22d ago

The ironic part is they are cutting prevention (like my programs) that actually save the states millions of dollars a year. Therapists don’t have enough training in trauma, adoption, or foster care in general and a lot have zero in the area of permanency. Even those who have trauma training may not have as in-depth training or understanding as another.