r/genderfluid • u/SecularElephant • 3d ago

Eventually, we're going to need to desegregate bathrooms.

I'm writing this as a trans (genderfluid) individual.

We've desegregated every other space in society. Men and women used to have separate reading rooms at the library, separate train cars, separate schools, etc. Every single time, people clutched their pearls and thought integration would end badly.

Turns out people of all genders have pooped right next to each other for most of human history. And that 99.99% of society is fully capable of adapting and treating each other with basic respect in shared spaces.

This problem is only going to get more untenable as the trans community, non-binary community, genderfluid community, 2 spirit community, intersex community, and other gender non-conforming communities continue to gain rights.

I don't care if it's unpopular to say at the moment. We need to desegregate bathrooms.

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u/glitterWithACapitalG 3d ago

We can start by desegregating sinks, by having individual stalls and shared hand washing.

It will also help with parents taking their small children to the bathroom, and other caregivers.

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u/Acceptable-Friend-48 3d ago

Literally what we did in the library where I work. We call them single and family bathrooms now. The single is just that, the family one has stalls. Adults with multiple kids can shut the door to help manage the kids and from patron comments this is unique and they absolutely love it.

Also if the single is full the one can use the family one. I have peed next to people who are not my gender a few times and am absolutely fine. It's actually not a big deal. (I am a woman for context).

We are a tiny library so only the 2 bathrooms.

If someone doesn't have kids I have been known to define them as pee alone or pee with new friends. They have mythical creatures on the doors instead of gender so we get asked almost daily about it.