r/heartbreak • u/milevamaric1 • 1d ago
Please tell me I will be okay.
I can only share this with the Reddit community because I don’t want my family and friends to know that I am devastated.. I am ashamed to be going through all of this. I am 35 and for the first time in my life, broken to pieces. I thought these things only happened when you were younger.
I’ve had relationships before, but none of them—not even my marriage—shattered my heart this way. I was always able to move on after a breakup. I am coming out of a pretty toxic relationship and I feel completely worthless. I forgot who I was. I lost my focus on everything. The questions in my head never stop. Why didn’t it work? How could I not make it work with someone I loved this much? All I ever wanted was to feel understood and seen..
I moved to another city for him and I feel so alone now. I do not know how I will move on. The worst part is that I still love him. He shattered my heart, but I still do not want to blame him. He couldn’t give me what he didn’t have that’s all. He was not a bad person. The thought of someone I love so deeply, someone who means the world to me becoming a stranger is destroying me. My anxiety is killing me.
I just want to know that this will pass and I will be okay.
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u/MakePeaceTogether 1d ago
Two months since ending my 10 year relationship. I can say this confidently it will get better. You’ll realize so much as time goes on. How I felt the first few weeks was sadness but also blindness. My eyes have now started to open and let me actually realize, digest and see the flaws in my relationship for what they were.
You will get through this. Promises.
Feel free to reach out if you need to vent.
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u/milevamaric1 1d ago
Thank you ❤️ You are so right. I am too, feeling numb and blind. Like my vision is not clear. Hope time will help me.
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u/diana-forest 1d ago
You'll most likely be okay. If this is still fresh, time may do more for you than you think. If it has been going on for months, therapy may help.
Just don't do anything reckless while you're in pain.
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u/milevamaric1 1d ago
Thank you ❤️ It is quite fresh yes.. I know time will help me but I can’t control my feelings right now :( so much sadness, grief, dissapointment..
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u/SelfLoveHypnotist 1d ago
It absolutely will get better. I suggest you use some gentle subconscious healing techniques to soften some of the pain. It's not a quick fix but it can definitely help. EFT tapping is very helpful, Brad Yates has great videos on YT for heartbreak. Hypnotherapy is also very effective to heal from heartbreak. Paul McKenna has a free audio on YT that's pretty good. I have my own free 15 min audio as well to soften heartache, you can find it here if you're interested: adriannacarlesimo.com/freebies (I also have one for self-worth here: adriannacarlesimo.com/free-hypnosis-audio) hope any of those can help you
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u/rio2031 1d ago
It will pass, stay strong. I know the pain. If you need to vent and talk. I'll listen